UPDATE: X Mail Forwarding - Page 2

[bananabee]

Originally Posted by *MamaJen* 

Given what I know about crazy abuse guys, this kind of ridiculous game is right up Crazy Abusive Guy Alley. Don't try to understand abusive guys through the lens of normal humans -- it'll just make your brain explode.

This is so true. If I had a nickel for every time I uttered "Maybe he . . . " regarding my STBX, I'd be able to pay my attorney double what she asks. The only thing that does make sense to me is that STBX, and I imagine other abusive UAVs, probably sit around daily dwelling on how much you & I've wronged them and how they can turn the tables on us. I wouldn't put anything past them, especially if it falls into the "it's not blatantly cruel, but it's really odd and obviously not nice and will probably explode in my face" category.

[crystalface]

Originally Posted by bananabee 

Originally Posted by *MamaJen* 

Given what I know about crazy abuse guys, this kind of ridiculous game is right up Crazy Abusive Guy Alley. Don't try to understand abusive guys through the lens of normal humans -- it'll just make your brain explode.

This is so true. If I had a nickel for every time I uttered "Maybe he . . . " regarding my STBX, I'd be able to pay my attorney double what she asks. The only thing that does make sense to me is that STBX, and I imagine other abusive UAVs, probably sit around daily dwelling on how much you & I've wronged them and how they can turn the tables on us. I wouldn't put anything past them, especially if it falls into the "it's not blatantly cruel, but it's really odd and obviously not nice and will probably explode in my face" category.

I could give a guarantee that he is sitting there thinking up new ways to *not* violate the TRO. (When in fact he's cutting corners and bending the rules.)

I'm sorry this mail thing is still confusing some people, however I will re-explain:

1) He nor I forwarded any mail to my current residence.

2) He forwarded his mail back to his own house, from my current residence. (Note item #1)

3) This means he is potentially trying claim that I forwarded his mail. (This would be, on my part, a federal offense.)

4) As everyone has said, he has no proof. Therefore its not a real foreseeable problem.

[bananabee]

Could you file a complaint about him with the post office? Ask them to make sure none of his mail goes to your house? Or, I guess what I would do is contact my lawyer and ask her to write him a letter describing what he's doing and asking him to stop? That way, if he makes a stink about it later, it's documented that you were aware and handled the situation. 

[hillymum]

I just responded to your other post and wanted to see more of the history here. Points that jumped out to me......

    His attorney can't lie and doesn't want to risk his reputation doing so. His attorney doesn't bear a grudge against you.

    There is no paper trail showing proof positive that you forwarded his mail so no judge is going to believe that.

   Why are you screwed if he getsa TRO against you?

[crystalface]

People have already pointed out to me that the judge will be unlikely to grant particular things he requested like, paying his $5k in attorney fees, or being enrolled in a BIP (because of past therapy issues??). I'm just afraid she will.

Oh and his attorney will lie. She did so at the original hearing, saying I threatened a witness, but had no evidence (and I didn't! I was with a friend the whole night!).