I don't think I can name the agency we are considering on here (I'm not sure if that's considered advertising?), but we're considering one of the largest agencies, so the process is a wee slower (there are lots of people in the program at this agency I think).
I don't think artificial twinning should be a problem, since our youngest will be around 3 if it takes at least 12 months start to finish (she turns 2 in a month), but we'll just be sure to specify that we'd rather not have a referral who was born at the beginning of 2009.
Do you know why there are so many CL&P children in China? I'd assume it's not a drug/alcohol exposure thing, right? Is it a genetic thing thing? (I've heard more than one theory about what contributes to CL&P, but I'm not sure which one's more accurate. I just know in Vietnam, the chances of an adopted child being drug/alcohol exposed is really really low, which is one reason we were drawn to that program).
We're totally not strangers to speech therapy...my oldest son was in speech therapy for 3 years due to his autism, and my 3 year old was in speech for over a year, before it was finally diagnosed as selective mutism (so speech therapy was pointless because she was just fighting it). Is that something that starts right away, or do you wait until they've been exposed to more English? Or do I find a speech therapist that knows Chinese as well? (We will eventually keep up with Chinese language lessons...right now my Vietnamese-born DD is taking Vietnamese lessons). Our insurance is usually pretty good about speech therapy...at least they were with autism, which they tend to drag their feet about.
What about feeding? Is there a special bottle I would have to get? (Or are the babies using cups at that age in China?)
How does the surgery work with the attachment/bonding process? I think one of my daughter's big issues is that within the first week of meeting her, she was hospitalized for 3 days, near death with severe dehydration (at one point, she fell asleep for 24 hours in the hospital and they couldn't wake her up...she was motionless for 24 hours when she was first admitted and they began to hydrate her)...that was a huge hit to the attachment process...days of being jabbed with needles and having failed/blown IVs, etc.) Do they usually recommend holding off on the surgery for awhile, or get it over with right away?