Over the past year, I lost two kitties, Oscar and Penny. They were both 17, Penny died unexpectedly, Oscar died after several months of being ill with what was probably bladder cancer.
Just last month, I was thinking that maybe it would be nice for me and for our remaining kitty if we found a new friend. I went to the humane society and came home with a lovely little six month old kitten that we named Zora. The transition hasn't been seamless, in part, I think, because Zora was part of a feral litter that was rescued (the volunteer that day neglected to point that out, and I didn't read her history all that carefully). Zora used my son's bed as a litter box (peed twice and pooped once--same day before I found out) during her first couple of weeks with us. I chalked it up to stress, maybe the bed was appealing, etc. Bedroom doors have been kept closed religiously. Then she peed on a blanket in the living room that my ds (3.5) was using as a fort. Ok, two strikes. I really like her, and though she's a bit of a project, I feel responsible, since I agreed to care for her. She just peed on a sleeping bag that my ds had out earlier so he could make a "cozy gopher tunnel."
I don't think I can adequately control our home environment in a way that will prevent these peeing incidents from happening. I can't imagine keeping all blankets/duvets/fluffy things forever out of reach of this cat. And my husband definitely can't tolerate any more extra curricular peeing (see above, Oscar died of probable bladder cancer--he was in pain at times and urinated in places, bless his heart, mostly in the bathroom on the tile where it felt cool, to let me know about it). I'm just so sad to think about returning her to the humane society. I feel like I've failed her if I do that. She's such a love when she's not being all lizard brained, and we've worked so hard to help make her comfortable here.
I guess I'm wishing that someone could say, "Oh, I had that same experience, and I did this magical thing and the cat never peed anywhere but the litter box ever again." Probably not, huh? So do I take her back? Abandon her to her fate? So sad.