A question Re circ - Page 2

[hakunangovi]

OP, to answer your original question: It sounds like your DH is perfectly comfortable in his own mind. No issue. In our case, it was me, the circumcised Dad that hated what had been done to me, and was adamant that DS would remain intact. DW was ambivalent as she had grown up with intact brothers and circ'd half brothers.

As for the rude comments - I can totaly understand your wanting to shield your children from such negative opinions, however, I feel you need a response that will make them stop, think and regret their callous behaviour. Something like "Do you really think that nature made a mistake?"  or "Why is it that the rest of the world thinks boys are born perfect, but you don't?"  Something that will force them to explain their comment, hopefully with some embarrassment.  This could be a great opportunity to educate.

[kythe]

Originally Posted by hakunangovi 

OP, to answer your original question: It sounds like your DH is perfectly comfortable in his own mind. No issue. In our case, it was me, the circumcised Dad that hated what had been done to me, and was adamant that DS would remain intact. DW was ambivalent as she had grown up with intact brothers and circ'd half brothers.

As for the rude comments - I can totaly understand your wanting to shield your children from such negative opinions, however, I feel you need a response that will make them stop, think and regret their callous behaviour. Something like "Do you really think that nature made a mistake?"  or "Why is it that the rest of the world thinks boys are born perfect, but you don't?"  Something that will force them to explain their comment, hopefully with some embarrassment.  This could be a great opportunity to educate.

Yes, but creating embarrassment for other people is really no less rude or negative.  I was very influenced against circumcision by meeting people who were well informed about it and able to explain rationally why circumcision is unnecessary, not by people who made condscending remarks.  Consider how the OP feels about the negativity from people she's around who circ.  It hasn't changed her mind, but just made her feel left out. :(

[kythe]

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Edited by kythe - 12/20/10 at 8:21pm

[major_mama11]

Originally Posted by Storm Bride 

The "I could never have done that to my son" line blows my mind. You didn't do anything to your son. You specifically didn't do anything to your son. That's kind of the whole point.

I can't imagine someone telling me my son's penis was ugly. I think I'd respond with something like, "it's really weird that you're concerned with the appearance of an infant's penis" and leave it at that. That's so messed up.

[CherryBomb]

Originally Posted by Storm Bride 

The "I could never have done that to my son" line blows my mind. You didn't do anything to your son. You specifically didn't do anything to your son. That's kind of the whole point.

I can't imagine someone telling me my son's penis was ugly. I think I'd respond with something like, "it's really weird that you're concerned with the appearance of an infant's penis" and leave it at that. That's so messed up.

No doubt. Sick.

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

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[Aka mommy]

Originally Posted by QueenOfTheMeadow 

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Sorry to have messed up on that!

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

Originally Posted by Aka mommy 

Originally Posted by QueenOfTheMeadow 

Per the fourm guidelines:

The discussion of or reference to religion is outside of the scope of this forum. Any posts which bring any aspect of religion into the discussion are not appropriate and will be removed. Respectful discussion of a religious nature regarding circumcision, alternatives, etc. may be hosted in the Spirituality forum. The Spirituality forum is a debate-free zone. Members maintain a list of helpful websites in a Web Resources thread for further information about religious issues.

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Sorry to have messed up on that!

No problem!