Gifting?

[VisionaryMom]

I apologize in advance if this is a terrible question to ask. 

SIL & BIL were approved as foster-to-adopt in August. They got a call last Thursday about a little girl who is now in their home. The caseworker doesn't think she's going to be available for them to adopt, but she needed a home quickly. She called to tell us about it. Since we have a daughter & they have 3 boys, we have some clothes & things that we've told them they can use (they really want a girl).

Sooo, I don't know how long this little girl will be with them. I will buy a Christmas gift if she's going to be there through Christmas, but DH said that he didn't get past them just being really excited to get details. Would you want your family to buy a gift? Not? Will she be able to take the gifts when she returns to her birth family? The little girl is 1, so I'm not sure she has "interests" more than just average toddler stuff.

[Polliwog]

Yes, I would get a gift if you are going to be giving gifts to their other children.  Children in my home (temporary or permanent) are to be treated equally.  And your husband won't likely be given details due to confidentiality.  But, unless she goes to a family member (or family friend) pretty quickly, I'd assume that she'd be with them for Christmas.

[VisionaryMom]

Okay, thanks. I hadn't thought about the confidentiality issue. It sounded like they are preparing for her to be there at least for a little while, but she did say that she doesn't think based on what they know that they'll be a permanent family. 

[Whistler]

I think a gift is a great idea and very thoughtful of you, especially if they have other kids.  Even a one-year-old loves to get gifts when everyone else does!

[marsupial-mom]

Yes I would want gifts.
In fact, our family has given our foster babe plenty of gifts and I love every one of them!