Originally Posted by GoBecGo
gummibears i am not very thin and i could feel my babies early (15weeks with DD1, 12 weeks with DD2). I think so much of it depends on the individual. I used NFP and was VERY aware of my body and reproductive organs before pregnancy, i think that, and perhaps individual anatomy meaning i had the nerves there to detect these things, made a difference. I know one very very thin lady who was 31 weeks PG before she knew!
Yes, being especially in tune with body helps, too. That's another really big variable as far as I'm concerned. And I can't imagine not knowing for over 30 weeks. When AF goes missing it's a big ole sign something's up, LOL.Then again if she was thin enough she might have had interrupted or spotty cycles, and that wouldn't have been any type of an indication of pregnancy.
Originally Posted by anne1140
Originally Posted by gummibears
It's basically a guideline, but doctors seem to follow it pretty closely. I told my HCP I felt it at 15 weeks he all but snickered and said it's gas. Won't feel it til 20-25 weeks and this is not my first pregnancy.
See, that's what I don't understand. It's crazy! I can SEE it moving from the outside, and DH can feel and see it, too! What the heck is it, then? An alien? My organs on the loose? How does it benefit them to say that's not the baby?
(For the record, my doctor hasn't said this, but I haven't mentioned it, either. I'm just ticked for all the people being told this, and about websites saying this.)
Yeah, I wish I had countered back, but a few days later I said to DH it's here and pointed. He listened and hear the heartbeat there and felt nudges. That's some gas, Doc. On days I did have gas I also correctly pointed out what was the LO and what was gas. Seriously, more than 20 weeks just to feel quickening? I think not. I felt it at 4 months with DS and that was a first pregnancy. 20-25 weeks for heavy kicks? Okay, that I'll buy, but not for the wiggles and tickles, which is what I explained I'd felt to my doctor at 15 weeks.
I went into the ER this week and they asked if I'd felt it yet. I said flat out yes, though my doctor says it's gas and rolled my eyes. LOL The doctor on staff kinda laughed but did say it was kinda early to feel it (this was at 18 weeks) Are you kidding me? All baby sites say 16 weeks is standard to feel it (quickening) and 18 weeks on a 2nd pregnancy is early? Says who?
FYI, I wasn't as thin as when I was pregnant with DS, but I was NOT overweight when I got pregnant, so I don't see why they think it's so odd I'm feeling it. VERY frustrating because I know what I feel. Gas is usually higher in the stomach and LO is lower in the same areas most times.
Because in the end we are only the ones carrying these babies. These doctors - especially the ones I saw both being male - know totally more about my baby and my body than me, right? Pbbt. Wonder what my midwife would say to that? Maybe when I see her for my first apt I'll mention it for giggles.