DD2 is 3 months old. We started off co-sleeping right away - we have a side-carred crib, but she mostly just sleeps in bed with us. Was fine for the first couple of weeks when she was sleeping 2-3 hours at a go, but then sleep gradually started to decline. :(
Now, I'll nurse her down in our bed and if she's out fully I'll scooch her over into the crib; otherwise I'll just leave her where she is. First stretch of the night is still usually pretty decent, maybe 3 hours or so. Often she doesn't wake until we go to bed between 10-11pm, which is nice. But then it all goes wrong... She wakes up *at least* every 60 minutes from there till morning, and I'd say more like every 30-45 minutes. I don't know for sure because I don't have a clock - looking at it just makes me even more crazy, but I know she wakes probably about 10-12 times between 10-11pm and 7-8am the next morning.
I am exhausted - beyond exhausted even. And just totally fed up. We've tried all the 'usual' things - swaddling, white noise, black out curtains, saline drops to help with the little bit of congestion she gets sometimes, even meds. We have a set bed-time routine and bed-time starting at 6.30pm and involving a massage with lavender oil, 100% cotton pjs, swaddle, white noise, nursing to sleep. I have given up dairy and caffeine - dairy for nearly 3 weeks (obvious *and* hidden) and caffeine for just about 2 weeks. NO difference - if anything sleep's gotten just a little worse over that time period.
I have a high-needs nearly 3 yo too, who doesn't nap at all and who needs a lot of attention and engagement, not to mention patience and I'm not able to give her any of those things right now. She also doesn't nap at all - so no opportunity for me to catch up on sleep during the day.
I'm down to thinking that maybe we should move her into her own crib - which will have to be in a separate room from us because the only place for it in our room is side-carred. I'm a bit uncomfortable with putting a baby less than 6 months to sleep on her own, but getting desperate her. Short of CIO it's about the only thing we haven't tried yet.
Oh, and the other night DH (who's now sleeping in the spare room to get some sleep) heard me crying in the middle of the night in exhaustion/frustration and came in and took DD. She cried for about 5 minutes with him in the other room, then went to sleep, slept for an hour and a half, cried half-heartedly for a minute, went back to sleep and slept for another 1.5 hours then he brought her back in to me to feed - whereupon she went back to waking every 30-45 minutes. Last night I gave her to DH at 1 am, she fell straight asleep and slept until 4 without a peep - but when I took her back she barely slept at all for the rest of the night.
This says to me that it's me keeping her awake - but I'm not sure how to go about transitioning her into her own crib/room. What do you experienced mamas think? Help!! I desperately need more than 1 hour straight of sleep!