I'm not even sure how to get into this...long post or short post.
When DS was 2 we had him in a Montessori 3 full days a week while I worked part time. It was far from our home, but close to where I worked. The following year, I was home again as I just had another baby, and we chose to keep DS home with me (he had an in-home (not ours) Montessori experience available, but I think there was a bit of a personality issue between him and the teacher, he didn't like going so we nixed it).
Now this year, at 4, we started him at a new Montessori school. He had a little trouble transitioning at first, which we fully expected, but then seemed to settle in nicely. Then we rec'd his progress report. It talked at length about how he can never stop moving his body, is disruptive to the other students, and has trouble settling in, etc. We met with the teacher and agreed to meet again in a few weeks.
We met again last week and I actually went to observe (in a hidden room) the day before so I could see him in action. And yes, he was disruptive and definitely seemed to have trouble settling in. He honestly, in my opinion, seemed bored and like he couldn't/wasn't choosing works that interested him. He also threw a work in the garbage that day (ugh!). He will walk past his teachers/other students and almost get in their faces (but not in a mean/aggressive way, he's always smiling and I really think he's doing it for attention more than anything).
We met with his teacher and the same issues are continuing daily. She said I actually saw him on a "good" day. I'm thinking that he needs more physical movement, as well as more one on one time. There are 22 students to 2 teachers, which some of my friends seem appalled at, but I thought was pretty standard for a Montessori primary classroom. He complains daily about going (says he doens't like school and doesn't want to go), and I'm growing concerned that he may simply be in a place that's not right for him. He's an EXTREMELY active boy -far more so than most kids his age I meet. So, they want us to fill out a Brown ADD Scales form (which his teacher does the same) and they are thinking he's ADHD. We are not wanting to have him evaluated by the school. I can't help but think that at 4.5 yo, ADHD is such an easy (and I'll be honest, ridiculous) label that I think so many other things are worth exploring first. Behavior modification (on our part, as well as his teachers), dietary changes, more gross motor activities, more time in PE (they are limited to 20 mins), etc.
Problem is, we've toured many places in our town, and there are very few I would even consider. This is, by far, my fave place and I love it. But growing a bit disenchanted.
Some extra info that might be helpful...he's there 5 half-days a week. They offer PE (BrainGym) day from 9 to 11. He often chooses to go, and had already gone on the day I observed.