For the last several months, DS (turning 3 in a few months) has just seemed so angy/moody. It's so easy to set him off and when something doesn't go his way, he starts screaming "GO AWAY!" at us. Or pointing his finger and shooting at us. A few times he has even said, "you're dead." after shooting us. Come to think of it, there have been a few times where, instead of throwing a tantrum, he has laid down on the floor in a pouty way and then when I try co comfort him, he says, "no, I'm dead." I know he doesn't understand what this means, but it doesn't seem like a typical thing for a kid to do.
Anyway, he's getting to the point where he doesn't act angry only when he doesn't get his way. He frequently will resort straight to yelling when asking for something... for example, if he wants a sandwich he'll start by yelling about it rather than asking... "I. WANT. A. PEANUT. BUTTER. SANDWICH. RIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIGHT. NOW!!!!" When he does this, we always make him rephrase in a polite way, which he does. But I just don't understand why he's jumping straight to the angry demand.
This morning, the lady who runs the nursery at my church (DH and I go to different churches) approached me and said that the last several times that he's been in nursery at church, he's had difficulty interacting with the other kids--yelling, taking toys, even a few hitting incidents. And he yells at the nursery workers to "GO AWAY!" Now, you have to understand that the nursery at my church is AWESOME. The lady who runs it also runs a preschool at the church... has 20 years experience with young children. Is very good at using positive discipline and concrete praise. Teaches parenting classes, etc. She also thoroughly screens, trains, and supervises all nursery workers (who are paid). So I'm not concerned that it has to do with inappropriate expectations, discipline approach, etc on the part of the caregivers at the nursery. Plus, her report today reflects what I'm seeing at home.
I also need to add that we haven't gotten reports like this from his daycare. So I don't know how to factor that in.
I will say that I think one contributing factor is movie time. We have gotten in a bad habit of being lax about how much time is spent watching movies. And we have probably let him see a few movies that are not really appropriate for DS's age group. That is number 1 on my list of possible remedies. The movie issue is tough. Both DH and I work full time and are usually both completely exhausted (DH works construction, I teach kdg) by the time we get home. So we have a tendency to just want to plop down and not really do anything. Anyway, I realize this is an area that needs attention.
But aside from that, I would love to hear any other ideas about how to address what's going on with DS.