Wow! Thank you all so much for the responses!! You are all so extremely helpful and I feel much less alone in this now.
Crunchy mommy, I have the same thing. Like today we went to the mall. He got to play in teh play area and wander around a lot and I was focused on him the whole time.) It's teh days trapped inside that are hard. If anyone has NON BORING suggestions for entertaining mom and todder together, I'd love to hear! Or maybe that should be a new thread?
(Gillian and cruchy) Isn't it funny how we feel guilty for feeling bored while playing with our toddler? I mean it's understandable. The mind wants to be challenged and have intelectual conversation. Building blocks is a little mind numbing for an adult. And yeah, It can be frustrating too, when we don't understand them. And that makes it so tempting just to plop them down in front of the tv.
Gillian, the internet is my escape too. Oh my goodness! Adult conversation!! Really, I'd freak out of we didn't have internet.
LROM. I'm sure it doesn't require staying at home to give your child enough attention. Sometimes I think working moms give their kid MORE attention because they value their precious little time together that much more. I myself worry that I take for granted too much that "Hey, I'm home all day, what more does he need?" Well, he needs a lot more. He needs all of me for at least a portion of a day. Not 50% of me for the entire day. But then I'm always debating how much he needs all of me.
GoBecGo. I agree. I want more kids too. And I know that one-on-one time will be shorter. But that's ok! Kids need siblings too! I think that actively sitting down with one child, or 2 children, is the same. Mommy is still playing with the kids. Focusing on the kids. Even if it's not 100% on the one child, kwim? For once, mommy is putting down this or that and taking time out for family. And I think that's sooo important, regardless of how many kids have to share the attention lol.
Side note. It's also great that siblings can play while mommy is busy. I hate that he only has ME to turn to. He LOVES other kids. He needs a sibling so bad.
Thank you LynnolaS :)
And I totally agree. I need out of the house too. At least every other day. Which is hard because I live in Canada. Winters are harsh. (minus 30 C out right now)
TZS. Me too! I feel like every other mom does nothing but play with their kids. But somehow also have spotless houses and healthy dinners prepared from scratch lol. I guess that's how moms like to portray themselves. But that's not fair, nor is it reality. I have to pry myself off the computer sometimes... ok a lot. Sometimes William pulls and pulls at my arm... so I put him on my lap so I can answer just one more email or 2... and then he climbs and touches stuff and I get mad at that. Well hello! He's bored and wants attention... Sigh. lol.
But it's good that kids tell you want they want!!