Thinking of letting our nanny go - UPDATE in initial post - Page 2

[Lillitu]

As someone who struggles to balance life and work yourself, I think it would make the most sense to work it out with someone struggling to do the same.

Only pay her for the hours she actually works- start doing that by having a conversation with her about all this. Tell her what your issues are and that she is only going to be paid for what she actually does. And then tell her that the chronic lateness and absences must stop. Then you can institute a warning system from that point on. This is what is considered fair and air-tight in HR circles as well. If you don't have it in writing, she can sue and and quite possibly win. Best to do the right thing- ethically and legally.

[Sol_y_Paz]

It was never a good time because there was always a "good reason" for why she couldn't come. In the end, though, some people's lives are too unstable to hold down a job at certain times

 This really jumped out at me.  
 

The conversation will be uncomfortable, but comfortable is costing you too much on too many different levels.  

[slylives]

bump.

[mrsfrenchy]

I read your update and you're doing the right thing.

I haven't read the other responses, but is their a drop in daycare center in your area that your DD could go to until you find a new nanny, so that you don't have to miss work meetings and such? 

[t2009]

So sorry things went sour after you worked hard to keep the relationship going! But it sounds like you've made the right decision, so good for you!

Best of luck with the search & finding someone fabulous for your family! There are a lot of great nannies out there.

[bluebunny]

Definitely sounds like the right decision, especially after trying to make it work for so many months.  GL!