So DH just announced that he's taking the kids to his parents' house tomorrow. Um, WHAT? I kind of blew up at him. The thing is we just talked about this (briefly) earlier today and I made it clear that I expect some kind of acknowledgement of FIL's behavior, or better yet an actual apology, before we go over there for Christmas. So he comes home from taking the kids out for a bit and drops this bomb? I do not understand how we can talk about something and just hours later it's like he heard exactly the opposite of what I said. He says the point of going over there is to talk to his parents. Um, then why on earth would you bring the kids for that? The kids do want to see their grandmother, but she's perfectly welcome to come over here anytime and I've also made that clear.
Sigh... I just do not know what to do. I'm so angry right now.
(ETA to address some of the responses and clarify... I know an apology will be like squeezing blood from a stone, but I need for someone to at least acknowledge that my feelings are valid and that FIL was way out of line.)