A very good friend of mine who has a daughter that is 2 weeks younger than my ODS went through a nasty divorce last April and is still dealing with the effects to this date. Just recently, she told me that her ex has decided to not pay child support anymore because he hasn't had any jobs since July (he owns a wood working company) and she is now struggling quite a bit. She also has two older sons from her first marriage that I'm assuming she's still receiving support for as well that she still needs to support w/ clothing, food, etc.,
This weekend, we're meeting for a playdate and will be exchanging gifts for the kids. Now knowing how much she is struggling and that she's broke, I want to get a little extra for her daughter besides the stuffed animal that I had originally thought of getting. She's needing clothes and things like this. So tell me, how much would be too much? Should I also offer to pay for breakfast Saturday morning - DH had suggested it last night when I was talking to him about this. I know she would appreciate whatever, but I don't want it to be out of pity - or her to think of it that way, I should say. I love her little girl like my own and would do anything to help if I could.
What are your thoughts?