Like Adorkable, my partner and I moved across the continent when I was about 6 months pregnant. I'm fairly sure that if I had stayed in the same city, our friends would have done *something* for us. My closest friend in our old city made us an amazing baby scrapbook, and my partner's closest friend's mom made a gorgeous quilt for the baby - both gifts that we know we'll cherish for years, and so, so appreciated, I'm kind of amazed how little acknowledgement about this huge life change that we've gotten from some friends that we thought were very close. I mean, they have asked how I'm feeling, but that's about it. I didn't have the guts to say anything about a shower in our new city, despite the fact that its my hometown. A lot of my old friends still live here, but I felt weird inviting people to a baby shower when I had barely seen them, or kept in touch only by facebook for years and years. My mom keeps insisting that her friends and family friends want to give us baby gifts, but honestly? I haven't seen any kind of evidence of that. I mean, that would be great, and not to be rude, but what are they waiting for???
My family has helped us tremendously (I mean, they are letting us live in their basement suite apartment rent free for as long as we need, helped us so much with our move, and, like, feeding us, and so much stuff), and my friends have given us boxes and boxes of hand-me-down baby clothes, which is awesome, but we no one has offered to help with big ticket items like strollers or car seats. Another close family friend wants to buy us a crib....but we a) don't have room for a crib in our tiny 1 bedroom apartment and 2) are planning on co-sleeping. I've told this friend both of those things, several times, and even suggested point blank, that I would love a gift of either help with buying a car seat, or a gift of a sling or ring carrier, but her reply was that she'll buy us a crib when we're ready for one. Not to be ungrateful, but that might not ever happen...
My partner's family doesn't have a lot of extra money laying around, but they seem to think that their gift will be all buying plane tickets to come and visit after the baby's born. Which, of course I appreciate the effort, and of course we want them to visit the new baby, but that's a gift to themselves, not for us or for the baby. My MIL has bought us some baby clothes - most are not newborn clothes, but that's been it from his side of the family.
It's not that I want our baby to only have brand-new things, or even that many *things* - I mean, we don't have room for a whole nursery full of stuff. I feel like a spoiled brat, but really, the first grandchild of this generation on either side of my family or my partner's family is going to have mostly used stuff and hand-me-downs bought off craigslist. I mean, that's what we can afford on our own, and if it were for me, that would be totally fine and awesome. I guess I assumed that both of our families, and friends would want to make more of an effort to help us get ready for the baby.