Not entirely sure how to phrase this, but here's the background...
My husband and I are Pagan. We are raising our children as such. We believe that there are many equally valid spiritual paths and that every person should be encouraged to find the path that suits them the best.
My mother is a conservative Catholic. She believes that the Catholic Chuch is basically the "one true way" and that while other religions may have their own strengths, they fall short of the Catholic Church. My father is not well, this may be his last holiday season, and while he did not share her views in the past it is hard to say what he currently believes (due to multiple strokes affecting speech and cognative impairment affecting memory).
In the past we have managed to "get along" by avoiding the subject or taking the "pass the potato salad" approach. We live near my parents and while we no longer let them have time alone with the kiddos (after a "pagans are going to hell" comment) we see then nearly every week. We've made it work. Now however as the children get older and the world situtaion raises fears of an "end time" my mother has found it very hard to avoid bringing up the subject of our converting to Catholicism. And the "pass the potato salad" approach no longer works to stop the discussion.
If you are (or have been) in a similar situation, how have you diffused the situation or made peace with it? As I said, this may be my dad's last holiday season and I'd hate to be the cause of unnecessary tension or harsh words.
(there is an added wrinkle... other family members have left the Catholic Church but not told my mother... so at extended family gatherings there are these added layers of stress. So that's another element we need to deal with this coming week.)