Do your parents or in-laws ask for this?
Last night we had my MIL babysit for two hours while my husband took me out to dinner. Apparently my son cried a lot and was generally unhappy. She said that we need to go out more so he gets more practice being with other people. Then she went on to say she wants more one on one time with him when we aren't there so he "gets used to being with her w/o us."
She also asks for us to drop him off at her apartment to spend one on one time with her. She is a heavy smoker and I avoid her apartment as much as possible and won't leave my son there (she does not smoke when we are there). I think the effects of second hand cigarette smoke are terrible, especially for young children.
I generally insist that she come to our house to see him. And we are always home. We don't use babysitters yet and hardly go out. That makes us pretty normal here at MDC I am guessing, but we do seem weird to some of our friends. We also include her in our outings. She gets to see him at least once a week.
Is it normal to want alone time with grandchildren w/o the parents? I admit up front that I am not changing my opinion about her apartment-as far as I am concerned even spending an hour there is too much. But do I need to loosen up in regards to time alone at our house?
My son is 2 1/2.