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3yo playing pretend all the time

post #1 of 6
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My 3yo is absolutely obsessed with playing pretend and has been for over six months.  It's really all she wants to do.  She acts out situations that we have experienced over and over, insisting that we call her by whatever name or role she's chosen and basically dictating the scenarios with exactly what we're supposed to say.  We play "Dr. Marshall" (her grandma's dogs' vet), "Wizard of Oz" (she hasn't seen the movie, but I've told her the story), "going to a parade" (since the Thanksgiving day parade), "daddy goes on a work trip" (we have to drop "daddy" off at the airport and then get excited when he comes home), ballet class, etc. 

 

I love that she enjoys these games and that she is working through real life scenarios, but since it requires complete participation from whatever adult is playing with her, it is pretty exhausting.  Plus she will play the same game, switching rolls but with the same script, for an hour.  I have noticed that she prefers playing with adults (which I think I started a thread about a while ago), but it's probably because kids won't indulge her in doing exactly what she says. 

 

How can I redirect this into positive behavior?  Is it a phase that others have gone through?  I'd like to take encourage her in whatever positive ways I can since she clearly loves doing this.  Acting classes? ;)

post #2 of 6

Does she have any little people that she could involve?  Our DDs sound similar and mine often stays content for quite a while with her dollhouse, dollhouse furniture, blocks, magna tiles and dollhouse/ playmobil people.  Their dramas often take up the entire living room, but she plays really well with the little people.

post #3 of 6

It is so normal and so great that she does this! Have you read up much on Piaget's developmental theories? Your child sounds like a little creative thinker there. I think it is wonderful! Don't worry at all. 

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Oh I agree - she is wonderful ;)  Thanks for the suggestion on the developmental theory - I love stuff like that.  I guess I just keep playing pretend like I've been doing?  I am concerned about the "bossiness" and the indifference to playing with other children.  More play dates perhaps.  But I'm an introvert too.  Thanks again!

 

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Originally Posted by Lisa1970 View Post

It is so normal and so great that she does this! Have you read up much on Piaget's developmental theories? Your child sounds like a little creative thinker there. I think it is wonderful! Don't worry at all. 

post #5 of 6

To help your sanity, I'd put some sort of limit on your involvement. E..g. for 30 minutes in the morning, then not again until after lunch.

 

And then when you're playing with her, be totally involved in her game, don't do other stuff.

post #6 of 6

once i got the hang of it - yeah dd may not have always wanted us to join in - but she definitely wanted an audience - pretend was my best parenting tool. i happily took part in it.

 

for eg

i had a crawling 2 year old 'dog' walk out of the grocery store on all 4s HAPPILY at the end of my imaginary leash.

 

if i asked dd and she didnt listen, i'd talk to the character of the moment and she'd do it pronto. i'd explain to the friend why dd needs to do it... 

 

we'd sit at the dinner table with all her friends around (TG no table setting for them) and we'd have this conversation with 7 or 8 characters. result dd happily ate her dinner without realising what she was eating.

 

we had to limit her pretend play to home because her 'friends' were scaring other children in the park. when dd was continuing the conversation in 'lion' her roars scared other kids at the park. so she understood limits.

 

soooo easy if she was in a bad mood for me to initiate pretend play and be goofy and stop the tantrum i could see coming (unless hse was hungry, tired, overwhelmed or hadnt gotten enough physical exercise - when NOTHING worked).

 

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