First of all ... hugs to you. mama.Â
It's so scary to think that there might be something wrong, benign or not, with your child's heart.
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My DD was also diagnosed with an 'innocent' murmur. Our ped referred us to the children's hospital heart clinic. They did a 12 lead ECG and that was enough for them to confirm the diagnosis. It was difficult to get dd to co-operate with the ECG. I'd showed her what would happen to her by using her Bear and placing stickers in the right places. What I also should've done was to add yarn or string cables, to prepare her for those. She was fine with the stickers but was terrified of the cables (she called them 'scary snakes').
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Also, the Children's Hospital techs doing the ECG (bless their hearts) were very happy-clappy-sing-sing-cheerful, which freaked dd out. We had to stop the first time, because she was hysterical and totally overwhelmed by the bubbles, stickers, stuffies distraction chaos. We went ahead with the cardiology consult. He had a listen, and was confident about it being an innocent, if somewhat profound murmur. I wasn't about to leave without the ECG. I wanted to try again. It had been a six week wait for the appointment, and I wanted to maximize all the tools to be sure that the murmur was nothing to worry about.
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About an hour later, with dd calmed down , I asked if we could do it again, but this time dim the lights, have the techs whisper, and let me explain to dd what was happening as I nursed her. She nursed for the whole time (this is fine, the child just has to be still), and we kept the lights low and our voices low and calming. That helped a lot. Â
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My best advice is if you decide to go for the ECG (which is great to have as a baseline should anything come up in the future), prepare your child as best you can. Borrow a real stethoscope (I had one, I'm a paramedic), practice your pretend ECGs, and offer a special treat for after. You know your child best ... for some, the cheerful, happy-clappy approach would be perfect, but my dd is a quiet, shy, anxious child who does best in a calm, mellow environment, and in mama's arms, preferrably nursing. Have a plan, one that is best suited to your child.
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