DSS went to his bio-mom's for the christmas break. So because of the distance he had to fly. No problem. His mom was concerned, but we've done it before and it really wasn't a big deal. DSS got there just fine and called to let us know. OK so here is where it gets bad.
A few hours after he arrived he texts me and he seemed really angry in his text. He said that he was talking about school with his mom. He has to register for high school when he gets back and he was exited about getting to choose his own classes. So he is taking Latin, and then as an elective he is taking engineering. He is really excited about these classes so he told his mom about how he was signing up for Latin (he hadn't mentioned engineering). Apparently she went off on him saying that Latin is a dead language and is useless and if he ever wants to find a job he has to take spanish. So he said he decided not even to mention the engineering course to her because he doesn't want to hear about how useless she thinks that one is.
Later, he texted me about another incident (these are all in the exact same day that he ARRIVED, you think she could have held some of this back). Ok dss is 13, his little brother is 10. His little brother was singing some song and looked at him after he sang it and said, 'isn't that cute?" Well, dss said, "kinda I guess" and his mother started hollering at him about how he should think his brother is cute and how can he be cruel to his little brother.
Later, dh decided to call dss to see what exactly was going on and dss was still angry, only this time it was because they took him to buy a coat. He had chosen some coats that were heavy coats but in a style he liked, he said they were the same price as the coat that his mom ended up getting him, but she decided she liked a "snow coat" that was big and puffy and "made him look fat".
So basically she's up to her old tricks. Can't he have ONE DAY to enjoy the fact that he is with her?? I am just so furious, especially since if he decides to come home early, he may be stuck. We would have to call and see if there is a fee for changing his return date. And if it gets volatile again (her hitting him again) then I don't know what we are going to do to get him out of there. We NEED her to drive him to the airport and if she is unwilling there is no way to push the issue. I am just furious. I just wish this could have been a happy visit, and I am praying that she will lighten up as the days go on. Maybe they'll be OK, or maybe she'll be working most the time. It just made me mad that his FIRST DAY there and she starts in on him.