All my friends are male...

[SummerLove]

... and xh wants to completely forbid me to have any friends over here when my children are around.

I would never invite just anyone over when my children are here... but my friends that I have had over are friends that I do trust, and they are JUST FRIENDS, and nothing more. Wouldn't it be different if I had a male-gendered person over that I was more-than-friends with?

I recently moved to a new city, and all the friends I've made here are male. I haven't connected with any women here, at all. I would LOVE to have an awesome girl friend, but I just don't.

Xh, seams to think I am having sex with every man I know, and is acting completely jealous and crazy about it. I am not interested in having sex, whatsoever. I don't want a revolving door of random lovers, and I certainly wouldn't expose my children to such behavior!!!

So, the point is, I don't think I should be forbidden to allow my FRIENDS to meet my children.. we've always been very social people, they are used to having different people around.. if and when I decide to date anyone, it would be different, and I would be careful about who I introduce them to (like after dating for a long time, and being very serious about each other first). Am I wrong?

[AtYourCervices]

Your exh has no say in who your friends are. He's trying to be controlling and manipulative by telling you are wrong for having male friends come over. It's fueled by jealousy. You don't have to listen to him spouting off like that. Tell him it's inappropriate for him to make any comments about your social life. Then hang up on him, walk away from him, etc. if he continues. Don't argue.

It's none of his business even if you are having sex with your friends. It's not like you'd be having intercourse in front of the children.

I'm one of those women who tends to attract a lot of male friends. Most of them have expressed romantic interest in me at some point in time. It is quite common for people to develop crushes on their friends, especially when the friends are of the opposite sex. I realized this and purposely sought out friendships with other females. It can be quite difficult finding somebody who you're compatible with, especially when you're limiting yourself to half the population. But, it's doable. You said you want to find a female friend, then figure out ways to meet people.

I just moved across the country 2 1/2 months ago, and I've made a few girlfriends already. Two live around the corner from me and one works across the street and is moving in around the corner. I've found my hang out spot in the neighborhood, which helps me meet people. 

[meemee]

i totally agree with AYC.

he has absolutely no right to do so.

i too have way more male friends and a few female friends. when dd was younger she would also call my best friend daddy. he felt odd at the beginning, but i told him 'its just temporary'. and it was. 

i am glad for those friends because they are not just my but dd's friends too and she gets a lot of energy out of her playing and roughousing with them. they would fight like little children and they didnt give in just coz she was a child.

dd is 8 now. and i am sure those experiences make her much different and more mature than her own age mates.