We've been struggling with 4yo (actually will be 4 next month) DS and his constant hitting, poking, pushing and all around constant touching of his 14 mo. old little sister and we're at the end of our ropes!! I've been as gentle and understanding as possible keeping his developmental stage in mind and his adjustment to having a sibling as well. Recently DH and I have been less patient because it's so constant and we're worn out! We're also worried about what it's doing to DD. Today has been an especially bad day since we're all sick and tired but, as the day progressed I noticed that he was really upset and remorseful once he had hurt DD. The final situation involved his throwing a toy at DD in the bath and getting her right in the face. He was taken out of the bath and gently but firmly (with a raised voice) told that it is not ok to throw things at his sister and he was devastated. He has never shown that kind of remorse before, it was heart breaking.
Is this a new developmental stage or just weariness on his part? Please tell me he's starting to develop empathy, I'm ready for this stage to be over!!