Hi there, I'm fairly new to this forum but I have a 27mo daughter who is so Jekyll and Hyde (mostly Jekyll!) with her 8mo baby brother. I realize that jealously is normal to an extent, but she bites, hits and squeezes which is clearly unacceptable. Not always, but sometimes. She can from 'goo goo gaaing' to her brother in a sweet way to giving him an unsuspecting bite on the shoulder! It's a terrible feeling not being able to leave them alone together. I don't want to compare, but I can't help but notice that others with children close in age to ours not going through such rivalry to the same extent we are. And where does she get this hitting and biting and such (which is only getting worse, telling me that our disciplining du jour is clearly is not only ineffective but backfiring)? She doesn't get it from us and doesn't exhibit this towards anyone else outside of the house (ie: in nursery or during play dates).
Moreover, she gets so much attention from me and my husband as we have the benefit of live-in help; in other words, I have those "extra hands" to hold brother if I need to focus on older sister or vice versa. I'm a SAHM as well, so while I'm fairly confident that this is not a result of DD not having enough attention, I'm beginning to think this is because she has received too much attention for so long? Is that possible?
Bottom line - what are strategies to mitigate sibling rivalry at this age? And equally, what are strategies to encourage sibling bonds and friendliness?
Thanks in advance for your advice. I could really use it!