I was planning to have our Friends (KD and wife) and my mother, her main job would be to wrangle the 4yo at the birth. This weekend while we were visiting MIL stated (snarkily might I add) that she was waiting for us to invite her to the birth. I am really having a hard time with this. We live in PA and they live in MA . During the past year we have been up to visit at least one weekend a month, and 1 week in Jan, One week in May, and one week in Aug. NO ONE has been down to visit us since 11/09 and the last time that IL's visited they went home and complained about how horrible that the visit was to DP's brother, not to us. I am really worried that I would be so wrapped up in having them there that it would really cause me to be overwhelmed. It would be a different story if they would stay somewhere else and just visit (they don't have the money and wouldn't take it from us) but that won't happen. The other issue is when would they come? We all know that babies come when they are ready so would she want to come and stay around the EDD until the baby is born... DS was evicted at 41+3. That is a long time... Help how can I diplomatically handle this?
P.S. - DP and I have talked and she has similar concerns but is torn as it is her mother.