Well, we said we were definitely done when we were pregnant last time with #4. We were certain of it. But once he was here, neither one of us was ready to take the final step of getting a vasectomy. I think we've decided we'll probably never take any permanent measures. So we'll very likely have more, but we certainly won't be trying, in fact, we'll very much be avoiding.
Is this your last baby? - Page 2
Yes, this is #4 for me, #3 for dh and we are definitely done. DH was done after our 1st together because he only wanted 2 kids and counted my ds from a previous relationship. I convinced him to agree to have a 3rd because I wasn't done but was sure I'd be done after that. I found that right after I gave birth to #3 I wanted another. Maybe that's because I've had 3 boys and am still trying for a girl. This one happened because I refused to use bc and I guess my dh doesn't have any self-control. LOL
I knew we'd be done after this one because I'll be 41 when this one is born. Adding on the 3 years it seems to take my body to be able to sustain the next pg, I doubt we'll have time for another. I wasn't sure I wanted to be done, though, until I got pg with this one that seems like it might actually stick. But, yeah, after this one I feel like I'll have enough, boy or girl. My family will be complete.
That said, it's hard to imagine this is really "it." Children are so wonderful! I can't rule out the possibility of a third, but if that happens I'd prefer it to be about 10 years in the future. (Then the first 2 can help babysit!) LOL!
This #2 is definitely it. I don't think i can stomach another 1st trimester. or 6-24 mos. it sounds selfish, but being phobic about nausea, and also the struggle I felt with DD when she was soooo dependent, i am not cut out to be a young-child mommy. I'm enjoying the older kid SO much more. But I've always seen two, and this little spirit has been courting me a long time. It feels like we go waaaay back. So I'm excited to welcome him, and then i'm ready to be done!
This is my last one and will be #3 for me but #2 for DH (first one together so we will have 4 all together). I thought I was done but DH has been such a great father to my children I thought it would be sad if we didn't get to experience this together. He really wanted one more so I agreed. I am so glad I chose to have one more because DH has been wonderful about all the nausea, sleeping, and crankiness. After this we are done!