My DD just turned 3 and DS just turned 1. It is a HUGE pain to get out of the house. DD never wants to go anywhere. There is always a tantrum when we are getting ready to go to the Y, playground, etc. To the point where she is kicking her shoes off, yanking her pants off, hiding, etc. If I DO get her out the door, she has a fit when I try to get her in the carseat.
When we get to our destination, lets say the playground, she has fun but then won't leave. It is hard with a 1 year old. I can't very well put him in the car while I chase DD so I can carry her to the car. It is just a flipping nightmare. We tried playgroups and stuff but same situation.. if we get there, she doesn't want to leave.
I am always shocked to see women with 3 kids (well-behaved) at the grocery store. I could NEVER do that. DS is pretty easy. Maybe DD is just being 3?