OMG!! Potty help!!!!

[southernmommie]

My 22 month old girl is peeing on the floor in the bathroom instead of the potty, the floor, the bed, couch, chair!! She can potty by herself, tells me when she needs to pee (sometimes), can nap and be dry, can take off diaper/pull up/cloth diaper and go to the potty. Even wake up during the night and take it off to pee (some nights)! But then there are days like today where she'll just pee where she's at and not tell me half the time. It's sooooooooo frustrating!!! DH gets so overwhelmed and keeps asking her why she doesn't go to the potty. I get really frustrated too and get upset at her. She's been doing this for 5 months now. How long does it take to learn to  potty??? Really??

[luvs my girls]

Maybe she's not completley ready to potty train yet. Thats what happened to my little girl...so I waited a month or so later and then tried...Now she does great. The normal time to start potty trainging is like right at 2 maybe a little over...seems like maybe your trying to start too early.

[love4bob]

That's still pretty young to totally get it I think. One day she will get it though, so just keep trucking I suppose? That's what I'm doing. My DD2 is 26 months, and she seems to be potty trained out of the house but not at home. She will stay dry the whole time we aren't at home, and she will even use the potty when we are out! But at home she will go in her pants and not tell me! It's very frustrating!!

My first DD didn't completely get it until she was 3. 3 days of underwear when she was 3, and she was completely potty trained day and night.

[Peony]

She may be old enough to pee on the potty but she may not be mature enough to take responsibility for recognizing when she has to go and telling you about it in advance all the time. That is a whole other level that sometimes can take quite some time to master. 

[brennan]

I know that with my daughter there are a lot of signs that she needs to pee before she goes, whether its a dance, touching herself, being restless, I know when she's going to go.  Maybe for right now you need to take charge a bit.  Tell her "we're going to go pee" when you notice her making some signs that she's about to pee.  Don't ask just take her (well I don't mean like yank her from whatever she's doing, but take her gently).  She might not be ready to take charge of it herself, and that's just fine!

ETA- a lot of her signs are much more subtle, and you really have to watch her to notice them.  Sometimes even, I just get a feeling, I can't even describe what I see but I know that she needs to pee, and I think this comes from observing her for almost a year.

[love4bob]

Originally Posted by brennan 

I know that with my daughter there are a lot of signs that she needs to pee before she goes, whether its a dance, touching herself, being restless, I know when she's going to go.  Maybe for right now you need to take charge a bit.  Tell her "we're going to go pee" when you notice her making some signs that she's about to pee.  Don't ask just take her (well I don't mean like yank her from whatever she's doing, but take her gently).  She might not be ready to take charge of it herself, and that's just fine!

That sounds good... also then she would learn when she is feeling the way she is feeling that it's time to go to the potty.
 

[southernmommie]

Sorry. I miscalculated her age. She's 3 in January. Not almost 2. I'm thinking of buying another pack of diapers until we get a better control. Some great ideas here thanks!

[Reg1123]

Keep calm and remember to breathe!

It can be so frustrating, but negativity/scolding towards accidents isn't really productive, IMO.  I would try gentle reminders like, "oops, pee pee (or whatever you say) goes in the potty", and she can even help you clean it up.

I keep DS bare bottomed at home, and that has really seemed beneficial in that there's nothing blocking him from getting to the toilet in time, so one last obstacle for him, kwim?

Honestly this sounds totally normal to me.  She's learning to pick up her own cues and accidents are normal in the beginning.  They all get there at their own pace!