My MIL called today and left a message saying that we are invited to her house tomorrow night to exchange gifts. Which is fine, we want to see MIL and FIL, but we do not want our kids around BIL and SIL. So I need to ask her if they'll be there, and then if they are going to be there, I need to be able to tell her that we will not be. I foresee this setting her off, as getting together tomorrow night was my idea.
If they are not planning on coming, she'll still say something to me such as 'I don't know why you can't see them just once during the holidays!' So I need some good responses to that. BIL and SIL usually drink/smoke lots of weed during these get-togethers and then say inappropriate stuff to me/DS. They're also just rude in general. They don't like me, it's no secret. My MIL just wants everyone to get along, unfortuantely, since I'm not the type to confront (I'm working on my boundaries!) I usually get all the grief.
Basically, I need the words to say, and replies to her objections. And support!!
Thanks in advance for replying quickly :)