For the most part everything was wonderful except for Christmas Eve Night. It truly amazes me how different "Mothering" can be.
My DH decided that we should partake in the family's annual evening festivities, but we knew it was hit or miss as DD needs to be laid down for bed (She will fall asleep on me, but wakes up upset and instead, it is so much easier to just put her to sleep)
Anyways, we get to the party but we know we can only stay maybe a half an hour because our girl is already getting exhausted. I am trying to be patient with my MIL but she really wants to carry DD around showing her off. This was fine, but when she starting getting fussy, fussy led to upset.
If you can believe this (and I know she meant this out of kindness, but we are just so different) she said, "You guys go eat and enjoy yourselves, while I stay with DD in the bedroom. I don't mind the crying)
Since DD is quite a spirited little one we get this response a lot. People are nuts. Like I am going to enjoy myself while my baby gets upset with no return?
Then, she turns around and walks away to a bedroom. This happens in front of 40 or so people all looking at my screaming baby.
It wasn't crying that was just going to go away. She was exhausted and ready for sleep. I hate when others think they know your child, when they don't. I was so upset at DH for not helping me out.
Well, I followed anyways and took her from MIL. I was trying to soothe her except that my mother in law continual stood there talking to her while she screamed. Then, she takes her away from me again. I am pissed and overly emotional at this point. I start crying and say, "I am sorry but we have to go" and as I am telling others goodbye, just to save whatever sanity I though they might still think I had... My MIL and an aunt are barricading the door. They say, "We are all grandmothers here, we don't mind the crying." I thought I was going to explode!
Then, as if it wasn't dramatic enough, I said, "You might not, but I DO" and I left! All the while DD is having a break down. We start the car and she falls asleep immediately.
Anyways, isn't that all just bananas? I have got to grow a pair. But I am happy I stood my ground and left anyways.
Poor DH I just kept telling him how upset I was at his Mom. Insert foot in mouth! I feel bad about it, but I think my MIL got the point that I don't like to just let her cry.
The rest of the weekend was great, minus the fact that I felt silly for making such a big fuss at the holiday party.
Oh well. I was much more assertive thanks to all of the reassurance and advice from you all.
I hope your festivities were wonderful and without family drama!