I've been a full-time SAHP now for 2 months, before that I worked 20 hrs/weekend for 10 mos and for 2 years before that I worked 32hrs with a baby and LOTS of pumping. DS has always stayed at home, my poor tired DH works nights and stayed with him days while I was at work.
Last April my DS was dx'd with Autism and was eligible for SSI. I harbored outrageous hatred for my job and then my DH was offered an exciting new job but the hours conflicted with mine, so I left my job. DS is 3.5 and there are no plans to have other children.
I never thought twice about mothers who stayed at home with one child, but now that I am one, I'm a little off-balance, I feel a little self-conscious about it, like the whole "eating bonbons" thing. My DS goes to preschool 8:30 to 11:30 am M-F, during that time I go to the gym, one of his teachers mentioned what a luxury it is that I stay home, but it's not as though it's not really tight.
Staying home with an infant makes all the sense in the world, and staying home with 2+ makes all kinds of sense, why do I feel like a "slacker" for staying home with one? He is considered disabled, but I don't advertise that part. Do you feel that others--SAHPs, those in the work force, therapists, retirees, everyone---look down on those who stay home with just one child? Would I feel different if we were involved with more activities?