Because of many food issues in my own family, I swore I would never argue about food with my kids. I let them choose what to eat and for the most part, it's worked really well.
My son was always the pickiest eater of the three, but he still had a well rounded diet. Over time though, his eating has become pickier and pickier until it reached the point where he eats almost nothing.
I think it started when he had a very bad bout of diarrhea. He didn't want to eat because his stomach would hurt so much afterward.
Today, his entire intake was half a peanut butter sandwich and a single apple slice. That was it. Over the last month or so, I'd say his average daily food intake is 1000 calories, sometimes less.
I have tried begging, bribing, punishing, yelling, sobbing, getting down on my hands and knees and promising him the moon. I have tried letting him pick the food or cook the food or sneak things in, protein shakes, Boost, Ensure. Nothing works. NOTHING. Everyone keeps telling me "just make him eat" but how do you MAKE him? I am so sick of hearing "just make him".
You can't. I can't. Not unless I physically pry his mouth open and hold it shut. He will not eat. He says no. No matter what I say, he says no, he won't eat. He is tired and lethargic all the time. He has always been skinny and below the charts in weight. Now he is so thin that his size 7 jeans fall off of him.
The doctor does nothing. He just says "oh he's always been skinny". My son was tested for celiac and malapsorption, all negative. In the diarrhea, the dr. just says it might have been a bug or his diet lacking fiber.
I am sitting here sobbing. I am certain that my son is starving to death. A body cannot function on so few calories. He has lost weight. He is too tired to play.
I would give him any junk food, any candy, any anything if he would just eat it. Tomorrow I am taking him to the ER. I am just not going to leave until they do something.
The worst thing is that I have completely lost my head over this. Tonight I just lost it. I cried and sobbed and yelled at him and just said all kinds of horrible things. He's in his room crying. I just don't understand why he won't eat. His stomach hurts every day - probably from HUNGER!!!
I asked him if he liked having a stomachache and liked being too tired to play and he said no of course not so I said then Why, why why won't you eat?!?!
I am beside myself and I don't know what to do and we are both crying and I'm afraid that I've hopelessly destroyed him physically and mentally. I don't know what else to do. Please don't tell me to just make him eat. He won't eat anything. Not even candy or junk. I would give him any food in existence if he would eat it. He won't.