[Let me preface this by saying that I am not a neat freak or a germaphobe.]
Their house: Our 10 month old cannot even crawl on the floor because it is so dirty. There are pieces of bark-o-mulch on carpet, dogs pee on it, cords and things for him to pull down everywhere (not baby proofed at all), super cluttered (crowed full of stuff, they are organized hoarders, so there is barely an floor space as it is), bath tub is not suitable for a bath (I don't even want to shower in there), the house is smelly, they keep the heat up too high, it feels claustrophobic..........you get the idea. Oh yeah, to top it off, they have mice from time to time as well.
When our baby was born we decided we would get a hotel when we visited. That was doable since we only came a few times a year. We moved and now we only live an hour and a half away....so that's likely where we'll be going for most holidays and celebrations...plus his mom just shattered her knee, so they're not coming to us for a while.
We actually have visited 2 weekends this month to cheer up his mom by seeing the grandbaby and help a little with cooking and cleaning while she's stuck on the couch. We tried staying at their house again and hated it (big surprise). It's just not doable long term with the baby.
I just don't know what a good solution is. We can't continue to stay there and keep a crawling standing baby in arms or sitting on the couch forever.....but we can't afford a hotel every time either...plus there's the whole aspect of being offensive to them. If we don't go there, we stay by ourselves for the holidays....which I don't feel is fair to all of the other relatives that want to see the baby. ...and our next closest family is 15 hours away.
Ugh, I feel like this is a lose-lose situation.
We're trying to decide today if we should book a hotel...but I keep thinking, "we can't afford a hotel every time we visit!"
What would you do?