My 3.5 year old shows signs of wanting to nurse again...

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I pretty easily weaned my 3.5 year old almost a year ago (Jan 1, 2010) with minimal fuss.  I would have nursed longer, but I was pregnant, my breasts hurt like mad and I was having crazy aversion hormones to it.  I literally cringed every time he was at the breast.

His little sister is now almost 6 months old.  She is a SUPER nursling.  Gaining like mad.  At 3 months, I started pumping and donating for a neighbor who has a low supply.  She depends on about 2 oz a day from me at this point.

DS was nursing maybe 2-3 times a day at weaning.  As I said, there was minimal fuss about it.  When DD was born, he asked again for them for a couple of days, but would always take "Those belong to your sister now," as a good enough response.  When his sister was about 4 months old, he and I were having issues connecting, he always wanted to be around when I was nursing, and so at a friends advice, I calmly asked him if he wanted to nurse.  He told me that they didn't belong to him and that they were DD's now!  Sniff!

Anyway, about 5 days ago, a friend of mine was over with her 16 month old who started to nurse.  I think the connection of an older walking babe nursing made him want to again.  He asked, I allowed and he did!  It was weird and I wasn't really sure how I felt about it.  I thought to myself, "That probably was a fluke and won't happen again."  He asked again an hour later and I let him, again, thinking, I'll deal with it when I think its too much.  I was amazed he still could.  Most mamas tell me that when the older ones want to nurse again, they actually can't do it anymore.

Sooooo...he asked 3 times the next day and I didn't let him at all and told him it was a special occasion thing.  He's now sick and I asked today if he wanted to nurse and said again that it was his sister's milk.

I'm so confused and afraid of all the mixed messages I'm sending him.  What would you do, mamas?  Thoughts?  I know it all comes down to what feels right to me and DS, but I have a lot of conflicting feelings about it.  And technically, at 6 months can my body still make more for him if he wants to nurse more often?  DD is still EBF.

TIA!