I'll be tandem nursing. DD was almost 3 when DS was born and she tandemed for a while. I don't really remember when it stopped being real nursing and turned into ritual. She still puts her mouth on my nipple for half a second most nights, but she hasn't actually gotten any milk in a long time. She's 5.5 now. DS will be 3 and a quarter when this baby is born. He's a big boob man. I'm not aware of my supply having changed. When he pulls off I still have white milk clearly visible on my nipples. I wonder if the fact that I've been nursing daily for 5.5 years has made my boobs more capable to continue making milk despite the hormonal changes? Although when I was pregnant with DS, DD never complained that the milk had changed or dried up. That's not to say that it didn't. She just never commented and also didn't comment once it came back after he was born. It seems that most other kids have some complaints.
DS did suddenly start sleeping vastly better about two weeks ago. Maybe that has something to do with the milk changing or becoming less plentiful. I have no idea, but I was at my wit's end with him waking up multiples times in the night to nurse, even at 2 and a half.
Originally Posted by egmaranian
To those of you who are currently tandem nursing: how do you handle a newborn and a toddler both wanting to night nurse while co-sleeping? I'm so scared that if DS doesn't end up weaning that he'll roll over me onto the new baby during the night to nurse on the other side or something?
Never fear. I think it's like imagining co-sleeping when you're pregnant with your first. Lots of people worry that they're going to roll over and kill their baby or whatever. It just doesn't happen. You do, of course, need to employ some safety measures. My DD was sleeping through the night for the most part by the time DS was born. I kept her between me and DH and baby DS was generally on the other side of me (at the edge of the bed), but was sometimes on the other side for the other boob in the crook of my arm. The main rule is that you can't leave them in the bed alone together. I think most people say that that applies until the baby is 12 or 18 months. My DS slept downstairs with me on the couch until I went to bed at night until he was almost 1. Then he started sleeping upstairs but DD was sleeping in her "bed," which is a couch pushed up to my side of the bed. Her couch is about 6 inches lower than our bed so I felt that that was enough to stop her from rolling up onto the bed to squash him.
Here's hoping that your DS nightweans by the time the baby is born. I think night nursing two would be pretty exhausting.