My youngest is almost 10 months old now and we're starting to plan for our 3rd child. I've had two c-sections, both of which have been because the babies' heads would not engage in the pelvis and their heart rates started to drop. It took me a long time in both labors to become fully dilated and I pushed for 2 hours with each.
With my second, I did everything I could (so I thought). I hired a doula, I read everything I could read on VBAC, I was on the forums every day, chatting and making plans. Still, though, my daughter's head simply would not come down.
So my question is, what if I am in that exact situation, yet again, in the middle of labor and the baby's head will not engage properly? The head is crooked in the pelvis, I'm fully dilated, but pushing is doing no good. Is there anything I can do? I didn't think it would happen to me twice in a row! I thought if I just used positions and pain management and relaxation, she would position herself correctly and come out. What else can I do in the moment of labor? I think during my first labor, the midwife even tried to reach up and turn my son's head, but he was stuck at an odd angle.
One worry I have is that I really can't get a baby out. I mean, I'm 5'1, petite, and my babies have been 8lbs and 9lbs 2oz. They both have heads in the 90-95th percentile for size. Am I just not capable of getting them out vaginally?
Anyway, any insights would be great.
Oh, and also, the doctors told me after my second surgery that they recommend waiting until my youngest is at least 15 months old before getting pregnant again. Does anyone know if that is really necessary or will do any good? We'd like our children to be pretty close together, so I'm not sure that we want to wait that long.