I guess I might be looking for some self-validation here but I know that I am looking for some BTDT stories.
My husband and I are 20yo, two children, not college educated. I am a SAHM, and my husband works in sales and is commissioned. We make around $20k a year, and things are very tight money-wise, but we get by. We also have some credit card debt that we are paying off. My husband owns a little beater car and uses his parents' old Explorer when we need to go somewhere as a family. We're currently living in his parents basement and not paying rent (until taxes come).
My husband wants to start college in the summer. He wants to take the time in the spring (and currently) to refresh his memory and study for his placement test so that he won't get stuck in high school level courses (as I did) when he really should be in college level courses. His job isn't offering more hours, and since he's got the time, and since we're getting by on his current income, he feels that college would be a good use of his time.
I currently have no real interest in going to college. I love and enjoy being a SAHM. I can be incredibly frugal when I apply myself (i.e. not get lazy and go buy a bottle of laundry soap because I don't feel like making my own) and I enjoy living a minimalist lifestyle. I honestly could do without TV, the latest trendy clothing, etc. I sew, I knit, I'm a great homemaker, if they even call it that anymore. I can honestly and accurately say that I can hold down a household pretty well.
We would one day love to buy our own house and our own car. We have good credit. My husband has dreams of living away from the big city and moving to a rural area (byebye Chicago!). I'd like to live somewhat off the grid ;) so our hopes kind of go hand in hand. We want more children (at least three more).
If my husband is able to get a college education and make more than he currently does, would we be able to survive financially if I were to be a SAHM? Being a WAHM isn't out of the question either- as I said, I sew, knit, and have a love for screen-printing. I understand that being a WAHM doesn't lead to the big bucks but it can put food on the table.
Is this doable? Really. Every time I hear the word "college" in a sentence referring to me, I cringe. I was so over educated when I was little (hot housed, etc) and I really dislike being taught things. I catch onto things extremely fast and courses are much too slow paced for me. I'd love to be able to stay home with my children during their childhoods forever- we have hopes of homeschooling (perhaps unschooling).
Way way in the future I'd perhaps like to become a RN and move on to becoming a lactation consultant or midwife, but I'd like that to happen once my children are grown (or at least older than 8yo).
Am I being totally unrealistic?