My husband and I are perhaps going to be adopting our great-niece who is 3 1/2. It's been a long battle for this little girl. The last straw was that she broke her arm a few months ago and had pins put in, but her mother (a heroin addict and prostitute) refused to take her to the hospital to have them taken out. She also had to get her four front top teeth pulled due to rot. We live 130 miles away and didn't know exactly what was going on, but trusted our extended family (my MIL, BIL, SIL) to take care of our niece and ensure she did not stay in a dangerous situation. This obviously didn't happen.
We have reason to believe that it is her mother that broke her arm, as this is not the first instance of abuse. And she has people around her who are telling her she could get disability if her daughter was ill or disabled in some way. There are more stories, more trauma. It makes me ill and upset we didn't do something sooner.
My DH mom finally filed for temporary custody, and she is going to court Wednesday for permanent. I hope she gets it, even though she did allow some things to happen under her roof and she makes me very nervous about her judgement. We are going to move them out to live near us in the next two weeks and eventually take my dear niece under our roof. I hope.
We have a 3 1/2 year old DS and 15 month old DS. And they love her, and she loves them. I am anxious about the issues she will have, and I am looking for resources to help with this process. I also just want to air my fears, as I am afraid that we may lose this little girl to the system. I don't trust the government to take care of things and I don't want to put my babies at risk. I am in a custody battle with my eldest sons dad. There is no way I can let this little girl disappear. My heart will not let me.
We just had the greatest Christmas, took her on the Polar Express train, got her a bike, clothes, all sorts of wonderful things. The whole time, I had to tell myself to have no attachment to these things, have no attachment to the outcome. How I wish what my heart wishes would occur.