My story: I'm pregnant with my first, setting up for birthing center, but UC is on the table.
I realized a while ago that it was time to stop discussing the possible oops with others. Friends and family. DH is incredulous and supportive at the same time and has agreed to stop bringing it up, as it's just pretty clear others are going to advise against it. However I'm so psyched about all I'm learning about labor and the mechanics of it all that I do want to share and talk about it... I guess that's why I'm here.
I've become a labor junkie in a few short months :) and as a yoga teacher I'm fascinated.
Anyway I was talking to my little sister yesterday, she was visiting... and I started talking about how cool it is (you know things are a little off when you're drawing a uterus and ligamental attachment points and your sister is turning green as you talk about the cervix).
Later on, I was taking her to the bus stop and she asked if there were any decisions left to make about the labor. We had been chatting for a while and I was feeling very open and said, we're considering having an oops - not getting to the hospital at all if things are going well and my emotional state is good.
She looked at me like I was crazy and said she was scared.
I quickly rephrased and said, no, we're just going to be prepared if the baby comes quickly. Head to the birthing center, but if I don't know how far I am and all of a sudden I am having a baby (because we're planning to stay home till the last minute etc etc) then I want to be prepared, have things on hand so we can safely take care of me and catch the baby.
Oh, she said. That's good I guess.
Anyway... it wasn't a bad interaction. It didn't leave me feeling bad at all. I just live in wonderment at the bad rap birthing gets in our society!!! If it was such a delicate process we wouldn't have the population issues we have now. We're meant to do this and people have been doing it for eons without doctors and scalpels.
I feel hope that women everywhere will come out of the place of fear around birth. Learning about it has helped me feel so empowered and fortunate to be a woman and to get to experience the miracle of life first hand. Glad oh so glad to have this forum!!!