this is a vent and a plea for advice. i feel like there are numerous topics involved, so i chose the parenting forum.
i am a sahm. i have a 6 yo ds, 3.5 yo ds, and 3mo dd. we "homeschool", but i can't get organized enought to feel like i'm actually successful at this. plus, my ds doesn't want to do ANYTHING unless it's play. i know that's important, but i feel like there needs to be more. but i feel like i can't get it together b/c all the boys do is fight over everything.
no one picks up after themselves except me and dh. boys generally refuse. when asked, the oldest will cry for 10 minutes balking about how unfair it all is.
all the middle wants to eat is junk. one lollipop at a Christmas parade and it's all downhill. he wants nothing that's remotely good for him. i don't know how he survives sometimes on the small amount of food he seems to consume.
i get zero help from the boys. they leave toys strewn about, leave dishes wherever they feel like (the oldest will usually take them to the kitchen fortunately). doing anything else is out of the question (sorting/folding laundry, dusting, that type of thing - it's just flat out refusal).
they complain that i never want to play but i feel like i have to spend so much time picking up and laundering and such that there isn't a whole lot of time left. i do play everyday - blocks, legos, board games (all their choosing) etc....but it's never recognized that i actually do that. i just hear "you never play with me".??????
anytime we try to do something as a family, there is usually an argument involved (we can't bake because they argue over who does what, who stands where, etc...i'd rather just buy a loaf of bread).
i just feel defeated by my own children most of the time. i don't know where i've gone wrong and i don't know how to fix it.
there is no rhythm to our day because they balk at EVERYTHING. don't want to eat NOW or HERE, don't want to brush teeth/get dressed, don't want to run errands, don't want to eat THAT, don't want to pick that up, don't want to help with that, don't want to listen to that. don't want to share that. the oldest complains contantly, whines, cries, yells, "backtalks" (for lack of a better word).
i'm at my wit's end.
any advice? btdt?