Originally Posted by openpollination
Incorrigible, i need some of that energy because tomorrow I have a prenatal intake at the hospital
Sending my stubborn, know-it-all vibes your way! =D
The trick I use when docs want to run tests I don't want run is not to tell them "no". I tell them something like, "I don't take any medications or undergo any procedures I haven't thoroughly researched and drawn my own conclusions about. Could you please write down everything you're suggesting, for me? I'll look into it, and call the office to schedule everything I'm comfortable with next week." I just repeat that first sentence over and over until they're willing to write down the info and let me be. Also be open to any resources they want to send you to for info. Take note. Worst case scenario, you have a good laugh at some biased info. Best case, you actually learn something that will help you make better informed decissions in the future. If I have researched it already, I'll be honest but open. "I don't really like what I've read about that test, so far. I'd love to read some opposing info on it though, if you can direct me to some." Sometimes they agree it's a bad idea but they are expected to present it. If they suggest opposing reading, "Thanks. I'll read that and call the office to set up an apt next week if I've changed my mind." Always with the friendly and smiles.
When they get ignorant, I am totally blunt and to the point though. "Listen, you don't seem to understand your place here. I'm your customer, not your employee. You don't have any right to tell me what to do. I'm already reporting your behavior to the hospital. If you keep it up, I'll report it to the Medical Professionals Board" or whoever handles licensing in that state.
In your case, I'd be really honest though. Totally deadpan, "Listen, I'm just here because insurance wants you to have my info. I'm not having any exams or tests done. I have a midwife handling that. This is just to get my info on file for the thin chance I have an emergency transfer in August."