I don't know what else to title it. I'm sure from reading other threads lately that I'm not the only one with this problem but I feel like I'm taking it too personally or something. I'm posting it here because I need to figure out how to cope, how to grow with this rather than let it get to me so much.
I went through a ton of work to declutter DS's toys, get rid of plastic/noisy/flashy toys, etc. and since then our house has been so much more peaceful and DS has been playing much better (I suspect he has sensory issues and the toys were overwhelming him).
Sooooo you know where this is going, right?
My mom was wonderful about sticking to our 'wooden toys' request (a lot of made-in-China stuff but she really really tried), and even mostly stuck to the wish list I gave her. She still bought way too much, but I guess that's her perogative as a grandma...
MIL... well... I told DH I was kind of anxious about what to expect for Christmas gifts, & I asked him to talk to his mom about the no plastic and how DS really seems to prefer wooden toys & play better with them, but he didn't feel comfortable talking to her about it I guess. Or maybe he forgot, I really don't know, but he never talked to her. So I tried to drop hints, sent his Amazon list over... I know she got the list because she told SIL how DS likes wooden toys. OK but then she herself gave DS all plastic, noisy toys!!! I feel so frustrated.
We do 12 Days of Christmas so DS still has a big pile of gifts to open, and I can tell (by shape or peeking through the paper) that they are all plastic Walmart toys. I don't even feel like most of them are safe, and I REALLY don't want him playing with them. Every day I end up feeling really depressed when it's time for DS to open his gift from MIL, even angry. I think it's out of proportion with the situation but at the same time, I can't seem to get over it.
It bugs me that I worked so hard to make our house an organized, peaceful place where DS can be happy, even thrive, and now it is all ruined. Too many toys. Too much plastic. Too much noise. It's making me so tense. I'm annoyed that the inlaws haven't gotten to know us well enough to understand our preferences -- or even worse, that they do understand but they choose to ignore them. I'm annoyed that my parents ignored my clearly stated request that they stick to just a couple nice toys rather than 20+ cheaper things. I'm annoyed that DH says that he agrees with me & with our choices regarding no plastic etc. but then doesn't talk to MIL about it & doesn't enforce it within the house. I'm just mad all around. Maybe I'm crazy. I don't know. I want to feel thankful & grateful... and I AM glad that everyone loves DS but I just wish they didn't show their love with STUFF.
I guess this is half a vent & half a cry for help. I know this is a disproportionate reaction & I'm sure the other issues life has thrown at us lately are making me focus excessively on this one thing but I just can't get myself into a more positive place.