Originally Posted by amo4piano
Hi, we've been trying almost a year now (11 months) but we had a short pregnancy that lasted about ten weeks and ended up being a blighted ovum.
Should I still seek help next month when our year is up or did any of you try to stick it out after a MC or flase pregnancy situation? Does the fact that I "got pregnant" mean anything when it comes to my fertility (even though a blighted ovum is considered a false pregnancy and not a real pregnancy)?
We are in our thirties and VERY anxious. Everyone around us is pregnant or on their second or third child and we've had baby fever like crazy for this whole past year. It's getting pretty tough to deal. I'm like a pregnant lady MAGNET right now.
Any input would be great. Many thanks.
First of all, I don't believe in the whole "false pregnancy" thing. You were pregnant. You lost the baby. And I'm very sorry for your loss. But there was a baby there at some point or the body would not have said "hey, don't have a period" and all that stuff. And often with a blighted ovum there's a good size sac. A sac is not made if there was not sperm and egg united and implanted. That to me, is a baby. Or in the very least, a conception.
The fact that you conceived does mean many good things. You make good eggs. Dh makes functional sperm. Your cm is probably good. Your vagina is a favourable pH. Your cervix and tubes are clear. Your uterus is favourable for implantation.
Sadly what likely happened is your baby's DNA didn't copy right, and died very early on. But hormones are too high for the body to realize right away. Not until the placenta takes over hormone production.
So there are a lot of good signs there.
11 months isn't all that long, especially if you subtract the time you "missed out on" while pregnant. It really has only been like 9 cycles or so, right?
And you had a conception in that time.
So really, I think you're ok. If you keep trying I'm sure you'll get pregnant again. But if you want to talk to your doc about it I understand that too.