I've always been the primary caregiver to dd-11. I've had dgd for at least half of her 5 years (although not for the last 6 months). Last month we brought my mother-in-law to live with us, and I realize I have a short fuse for her very specific requirements. She expects everything to be exactly as she wants them to be to the point that I feel like an employee not a family member and thus I don't enjoy her presence so I avoid it. I speak with her at meal times, but rarely go into her room to just visit/talk. I know she notices that I've stopped coming in there but there is nothing I could say to explain why I don't want to be with her.
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I had spoken to her about involving her in dd's homeschooling, She was involved 2 years ago, and is looking forward to it after the new year, but right now I feel like I just want to keep my dd to myself. I even sometimes feel like if I can't just do things my way I might as well send her to public school where at least she will be with peers (another thread for another forum, but I'm ranting.)
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don't even get me started about time for myself.
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