I don't post at mothering very often, I find it a great place for information. This time I haven't bothered to search, I'm googled out and just want to ask directly and hope someone can answer.
My son is now 5 years old and intact. We have never done much to his penis, followed the "leave it alone" approach. He's never had any problems. He has been mostly, (if not fully, not entirely sure since my first experience with intact penis, but the whole head is exposed now) retractable for almost a year I would say. We still just pull back as far as it will go and rinse in the bath. I have noticed that the tip of his penis is very sensitive or sore. I have noticed it for a while, but didn't think much of it honestly. Just chalked it up to being more sensitive, since I had read that it can be. He didn't seem to have any other issue to signal a problem, so I let it be.
We don't touch it a lot and like I said, I just don't know exactly what is normal vs not. Anyway, last night I was bathing him quickly and noticed that he wouldn't touch his exposed penis head at all. I tried to touch it and he was almost in tears because it hurt. Just the head, not any other part. He says only the head hurts when it's out. He says it doesn't hurt when it's inside (how he refers to retracted vs. not) and he says it doesn't hurt when he pees or at any other time. I checked on him again this afternoon out of curiosity, and all his answers are the same. I have always noticed that it's (the head) slightly purpleish in color, but assumed that was bloodflow? The edges of the foreskin are slightly red when he retracts, but he only complains of pain on the head, not the actual retraction or anything.
Like most boys he can hardly keep his hands off it, and I am just worried maybe there's an infection even though it's not quite presented as one. He also still wears a pull-up at night, and though stays dry about 1/2 the time I wonder if the urine is irritating the penis, even though the head is covered? I am going to call the doctor in the morning, but they likely won't be able to see him until Monday. Also, they were always supportive of the fact that he's intact, but I don't know exactly how truely knowledgeable they will be, yk? I'd like to be armed with some information of what it could be just in case, or maybe this is more normal than I think it should be and I don't need to take him?
Sorry so long, thanks for your help...