DP works long hours during the week, plus some on weekends. I'm at home with 4.5yo DS and 16mo DD. I am with them ALL the time, except for the 4 hours per week DS is in preschool when I just have DD. At most once a week, I get out for an hour or two to get groceries or possibly coffee with a friend.
On weekends, there is always tension and sometimes arguments over housecleaning. We both get grumpy when the house is a disaster...but by the end of the week, that's usually where it's at. I see the weekend as a time to catch up, and also a time to relax a bit. DP usually does a few loads of laundry, makes a meal or two, and does a "powerclean" where he runs around and puts things away and mops, etc. If he is cleaning, then I am taking care of the kids.
Today we got on the topic of cleaning and DP said, "your idea and my idea of cleaning are very different.", he then went on to say, "I don't think you know how to clean. You tidy. I don't feel like it's even at all."
I'm hurt over the whole thing, because I try my best but I have a hard time keeping up with it all. I vacuum, sweep, load and unload the dishes every day. At least once a week I mop and clean the bathroom. I pick up toys throughout the day.
I have no idea what to do to fix this issue, but something needs to change. I refuse to ignore my children and clean all day (no, DP has not suggested I do this...). I just find it so tough to get stuff done in addition to diaper changes, playing, dishes, making meals, nursing, naps, etc, etc.