My dd will be 4 in February. I've had her in parttime daycare off and on since she was 14 months or so. Our most recent provider was awesome, but closed her home daycare at the end of last school year. I had both kids at home, but found myself fairly depressed and needing a change. I put them in 2 days a week at a childcare center (one that dd attended when she was two). Ds (15 months) is doing okay.
Dd hates it. She doesn't want to go. She sobs every time I drop her off. She has decided that she doesn't want to go to school (she's been begging me to go to the elementary school across the street where he cousin attends). She says she doesn't like the teachers (at her daycare) that they aren't nice, that they yell, etc. With a little questioning, it seems that they are actually just telling her and the other children to do the things they are supposed to do, etc. It has been a couple months, and it is getting worse, not better...so something has to change.
I spoke with the director, and we came up with a couple ideas that might help 1) to allow dd to spend some time in the baby room with her brother, like at drop off and in the afternoon when she starts getting sad, and/or 2) switch her to the 4K room. The 4K room has fewer children and they are older, so it is less rowdy, I think. Also, she would have different teachers, which might help if her relationship with her teachers really is a problem. I talked with dd about it last night, and she isn't interested in switching rooms. She just cries and says she wants to be with me, and that she doesn't want to change rooms.
I did talk to her about a different center (which I'm not sure has room for her) and she said she would try that. I don't know if there is a space for her, and it is at the university, so they have winter break until late January. I know that they don't have room for ds, so I would be sending them to different centers (they wouldn't see each other during the day anyway if they both switched because the infants and toddlers are in a different building than the preschoolers).
I'm at a loss. I was really hoping that I could convince her to try the 4K room; that would at least buy me a couple weeks to work something else out. At her age is she capable of reasoning that out, or is she mostly running on emotion here? She is pretty worked up about it; I've never really seen her this adament before -- is that a developmental stage, like she's able to think about the past and the future and worry about it?
I am working on the days they are in daycare, and I kind of need to to pay for the daycare. The work is totally flexible, so I could take a couple weeks off, but I'd still have to pay for ds if I wanted to keep him in that center. I am doing some legwork to see if I can find an in home daycare that might work for them -- maybe it would help to be in a smaller group and be with her brother.
Okay, I'm rambling. Help, please!