hugs heather!! i know what you mean about processing your birth. i just wrote my story last week, and while the actual labor/birth was great, it was the afterwards that i still don't want to think about or process (ian not breathing for almost 5 minutes, horrible afterpains for 4 hours afterwards and I was totally OUT of it).... I just want to have a birth where the baby is born and is in my arms and we can just rest and bond and relax afterwards.. i haven't gotten that with either birth. :(
Weekly Chat Thread Dec 30 - Jan 6 - Page 6
Yeah, it seems like now that some time has passed, I question some things that went on during labor/birth. And the whole eye ointment thing that I don't know if I even talked about here. I didn't want it, 1st nurse tried to tell me it was required by law, I fought it, did the whole labor/birth thing, baby got eye ointment. The nurse who brought her back to me didn't have any idea (and I believe her, she was about ready to cry) but, yeah, I've got some resentment there. And I question having the pitocin. Part of me says it's done and over, why do I care? And part of me is annoyed that I was so out of control over what was happening to my body.
Big kids are over the influeza, just lingering running noses and coughs. Husband never got it, just had a weird 1 day cold. However, I'm worried about the baby. I'm thinking that she might have whooping cough. None of my kids have ever had it before, so I'm just not sure if it's that or a really bad cold. Any thoughts? I'm probably going to take her in to the ped, but my regular one is off on Wednesdays and I'm not fond of the other ones. I suppose the one is okay, just pushy. The other, I think, doesn't know what he's doing - so we'll not be seeing him. Well, she is awake. Better go see how the congestion is.
Heather-sounds a lot like my 3rd child. I highly recommend completely cutting dairy-even monitor cross contamination and the tiniest bit of milk in anything you eat. My 3rd was so super sensitive to dairy she would have the worst symptoms like Eliana if I ate just half a cracker that had casein somewhere in it. Testing anyone under age 4, in particular, is notoriously inaccurate, so I would not bother. All of my kids outgrew the dairy allergy. Keeping all dairy out of my diet without slip ups, I feel, contributed to my 4th child outgrowing it the fastest. It can take a few weeks for all of the milk to get out of your system, too. I will say that pumping before I nursed (not too long, just 1-2 oz.) with Molly helped her considerably with my OALD. I don't need to do so anymore as it has evened out a little, but it really helped for about a month and I just donated that milk and more to a baby at Riley's.
Molly has her first sickness. We thought she had a cold before but it's just her strong gag reflex and dry heat in the house. Now she has a "real" cough from her cousin.
Oh, but forgot to share the GOOD news. Yesterday, as I was feeling worried about the baby and annoyed that the babysitting kids were being picked up late AGAIN and while my husband was working late AGAIN, I get a package from my brothers-in-law. Inside was a Moby Wrap. The one thing that I REALLY REALLY wanted to get for this baby and didn't have. The thing that I REALLY REALLY didn't want to spend money on since money is super tight right now. The thing that I was probably within hours of purchasing anyway. And there it was!!!!!! My b-i-l's partner works in a snooty baby store in NYC on the Upper East Side. B-i-l had asked me at Christmas if I would want something like that. I thought that he had forgotten all about our conversation. Haven't tried it out yet since I'm sure that I'll need to figure it out first, but I'm so freaking excited.
Baby seems better now that she is up, so maybe I'm overreacting about the whooping cough. She's eating, smiling, all that good stuff. Maybe just a bad cold.
I still think about my birth sometimes. It would have been nice to have a doula present. I wrote about it in the most positive light I could muster, because that is what I wanted to remember, but honestly there was a lot that I really regret. Aside from the first two nurses who immediately told me that I had to have morphine or an epidural IMMEDIATELY, one or the other - the rest of my nurses were pretty respectful. I know that my birth wasn't completely natural, and I feel a little robbed that I was talked into so much during transition. Previously agreed upon points, like delayed cord clamping, no pitocin for placenta delivery, etc etc were suddenly not options anymore though nobody could explain why and I couldn't focus to ask the right questions. And whats with this "lip" of my cervix not moving out of the way, why was I told I couldn't push when I wanted to? Is that a real thing? That was easily the most painful part, not being able to push when my body desperately wanted to. And the fact that somebody - I can't even remember who - decided to take my baby away instead of hand him to me immediately bothers me, though I know it is weird and maybe petty... I just wanted to be the first to hold him and see him all new and fresh.
But I guess part of me also feels incredibly grateful that it went as well as it did, I know some mamas have a lot more to sort through. I guess this is my first time laying out all the negatives I felt about my experience, I know for sure that I won't be in a hospital next time.
Desmond was two months old yesterday! at 7 weeks he was 13lbs 8 oz. gaining about a lb a week. He is two feet long. He is fitting into 6 mo sleepers perfectly, we just got rid of all our 3-6 months. I cried when I realized he would never wear my favourite onesie again. Haha. The mom life. We are getting to the bottom of his tummy issues. Block feeding really helped us out, now I am down to 3 hour blocks. His messy diapers look great, all yellow, no mucous... until I tried to re-intro egg yesterday. Sooo now we know for sure about egg! lol. I have actually been sneaking dairy in small ways. I can have things with hidden dairy, sometimes things baked with dairy (though I myself bake with almond milk). I'm going to try cheese as soon as this whole egg thing dies down in about two weeks. We'll see. Is there something better to re-intro with than cheese? I know not to go straight for milk.
It is so wonderful to be so in love with such an awesome little person! I take a zillion pictures, it seems, trying to capture her. I just wish I could keep this time forever as I will definitely miss the little head that falls asleep so easily on my shoulder, the body that's just long enough to rest on my arm as I sit here and type, the little noises as she sleeps and dreams, the wonderful smells of a little baby.
It's already feeling like she's about to turn into a BABY. Not a newborn, but a BABY. She sits up so well - assisted, of course - but I wonder just how many more weeks it will be before she's tripod sitting. She smiles so readily and so easily and talks a ton. I love these sounds and hate to think that they'll, before long, turn into other sorts of sounds as they slowly turn into words. She's chewing on her hands and drooling, and starting to think about reaching for things. She looks at her brothers so lovingly and adores her daddy. She's clearly learning so much already. And, yet, I know that as she learns more and grows more she will no longer be my tiny, newborn baby!
The good thing about her not growing too fast is that I have yet to have to retire her clothes. Though, actually, newborn stuff is too small. And the newborn Itzy Bitzy owl dress from Zutano... It really is too small now, though I have had her wear it recently, anyway. Thankfully, someone also gave us a 0-3m onesie in it, because I that pattern! I will be very sad when she outgrows everything else, but I am also itching for her to get into some of the new stuff, too. At least that'll be my consolation!
Oh, and I just realized that I took a few more of my placenta pills yesterday... And that may well account for my change in outlook! I haven't taken them in several weeks, I think, but they really DO make a difference in how I feel. I need to make sure my sister can get her placentas after her babies are born so she can get them encapsulated, too. (Did I mention my sister is due with twins in August? They'll be 9 months younger than Eliana! Her first babies. )
Ellen, that's so awesome about the Moby! The biggest key is to make sure it's snug *before* you put the baby in. You don't want loose or drape-y fabric as it just won't give you support (and then it won't feel good, either).
Kitty, I am so glad to know yours all outgrew it! I am really curious whether it's the dairy or the oversupply. I keep looking at the two bags of milk I've pumped so far... Each is 4.5 or so ounces, and there's a TEENY bit of fat layer on each one. Way less than I'm accustomed to, for sure. Now, that's pumping twice into each bag, so the 4.5 ounces wasn't all from one breast at one pumping, but there's easily 2-3 ounces that appears to be *just* foremilk. That could certainly explain some things. It's odd to me that I never had significant issues with my others, though Judah did have mucousy stools that I never could find a cause for. He gained fine, though, and I'm not sure if I ever did avoid dairy entirely. But he can eat it now with no problems - except that he used to react clearly to yogurt and refried beans. That was always a severe diaper rash, though, so now that he's potty trained, I'm not even sure we'd notice an effect. At this point, we still avoid yogurt for him.
Why am I suddenly craving pizza? Oh, I know... Because I can't have it!
My kids were very obviously dairy-vomiting, green mucousy poop, upset bellies, screaming if I had even a small amount. I really hope Molly outgrows hers soon like Ari did. My 3rd took 2.5 years to get over it and we're still not sure what all allergies she has going on!
Wow, I really feel for you all struggling with food issues. I drank an extra cup of coffee yesterday afternoon to warm up. Holy upset baby, batman!!!! I've learned my lesson on that one.
Tried Rachel in the Moby yesterday and it worked great! I tried wrapping dd1's baby doll before I put the real thing in. It was a good practice run and dd1 thought it was hilarious.
all this talk about mucus in poop...what if my daughter has yellow stools but there is mucus? what does that mean? she has been getting a bit fussy sometimes after eating - or during eating. she yells like she has some pain - but gets over it quickly - sometimes with a burp or fart or time. everything i read talks about green stools with mucus. hers have never been green.
I actually thought maybe it was going away, then today she had a BM that was pretty much ALL mucous.
I am hearing it can be various things, including foremilk/hindmilk imbalance caused by oversupply and overactive letdown (which I seem to have), as well as allergies, in particular cow's milk allergy.
But, then I hear reports across the board of those things causing green stools and hers just aren't green most of the time.
And she's rarely fussy. Here and there, like with ecky's LO having some gassiness, a BM, or burp. But she's anything but colicky, which I typically expect from allergies. I am really, really hoping it's just an oversupply issue that I can work on and get under control. The symptoms of dairy intolerance versus oversupply just seem to be SO similar!
Desiree, sorry about your period. That *really* stinks.
And hugs to all the mommas still processing their birth stories. Unfortunately, I think that we as a group, feeling how we do about the birth experience, and having all of the knowledge we have, our expectations are so high, and we see the birth as something that defines us and stays with us. And consequently, that sets us up for disappointment. Not like we shouldn't expect that we can have the "perfect" birth experience, but what are the odds of every single thing going exactly as planned, when in reality, so much of it is out of our control (i.e. where the placenta attaches, the time labor starts, baby's reaction to the labor, etc). I'm very happy with my birth experience, yet still have room to regret that I didn't "catch" Maia myself, as I'd wanted to. And I don't plan on having any more babies, so I'll never get that opportunity again...
And that brings me to another issue. I can't get enough of kissing Maia's soft little head or snuggling her up on my shoulder or nursing her in bed with me. I just want to cry when I think about her being my last baby, but I don't want to waste her babyhood with me being in a funk because she's my last baby! So I'm just trying to treasure her and not think about anything else. I don't know if it's still postpartum hormones or lack of sleep or what, but I'm still having bouts of anxiety and sadness for no apparent reason. I think some of it is the weather, too. It's been freezing here, and the sun appears to be in hiding, which makes for long, cold, gray days. Plus I've had a cold for the last week that's affecting my sleep but I can't take too much vitamin C because it makes Maia really gassy and poopy. And she has little baby congestion too, which seems to be making her spit up a lot more.
Anyway, I miss all you mamas and hope you're doing well!