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post #21 of 45
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I got my c/s date today and it will be July 1st. I am happy with this because my ultrasound showed the baby due July 4th. My DD was 4 days early so my doctor is letting me go to basically full term. I also asked my doctor what would happen if I go into labor before that date and she said she would cancel clinic appointments and do the c/s (I was worried I would have to have it done by a back up doctor). She also told me she always has the mom see the baby right away before she cleans the baby up. This was my one request during my emergency c/s with both DC and it was not honored (two different doctors and hospitals). 

 

I am so glad I found women on this board that told me I have choices even with a c/s. I am also glad I decided to look for a new doctor after the one I had said I had no choice but to have the c/s at 38 weeks. 

 

Also I heard a heartbeat today!

post #22 of 45
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I got my c/s date today and it will be July 1st. I am happy with this because my ultrasound showed the baby due July 4th. My DD was 4 days early so my doctor is letting me go to basically full term. I also asked my doctor what would happen if I go into labor before that date and she said she would cancel clinic appointments and do the c/s (I was worried I would have to have it done by a back up doctor). She also told me she always has the mom see the baby right away before she cleans the baby up. This was my one request during my emergency c/s with both DC and it was not honored (two different doctors and hospitals). 



 



I am so glad I found women on this board that told me I have choices even with a c/s. I am also glad I decided to look for a new doctor after the one I had said I had no choice but to have the c/s at 38 weeks. 



 



Also I heard a heartbeat today!




 



Congratulations! It sounds like you found a good OB. Hopefully everything will go perfectly!

 

post #23 of 45
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Originally Posted by matty02 View Post

I got my c/s date today and it will be July 1st. I am happy with this because my ultrasound showed the baby due July 4th. My DD was 4 days early so my doctor is letting me go to basically full term. I also asked my doctor what would happen if I go into labor before that date and she said she would cancel clinic appointments and do the c/s (I was worried I would have to have it done by a back up doctor). She also told me she always has the mom see the baby right away before she cleans the baby up. This was my one request during my emergency c/s with both DC and it was not honored (two different doctors and hospitals). 

 

I am so glad I found women on this board that told me I have choices even with a c/s. I am also glad I decided to look for a new doctor after the one I had said I had no choice but to have the c/s at 38 weeks. 

 

Also I heard a heartbeat today!



Congrats! I'm really glad you've found an OB that will honor your wishes. It's very hard to find an OB that's looking out for you.

 

I meet with my OB on January 14th and I have many questions for her. When I had the last spotting episode I was referred to an OB I wasn't even familiar with because she was out of town for two weeks. (The OB was even from a different practice.) He didn't give a hoot about how I was feeling or anything. It was, "Well, if something is happening, it's happening. You'll have to just deal with it." I was like WTF?! Plus, I want to see if she will just let me go into labor on my own. I would much rather do that since my milk will come in faster and I feel it's better for the baby to at least have a trial of labor.

post #24 of 45
Thanks for keeping this discussion helpful and respectful.
post #25 of 45

matty02: congrats on having such a positive attitude towards something that you'd rather not have to deal with. I'm very happy for you that you've found an OB that is willing to work with your wishes.  Best of luck with the rest of your birth planning. smile.gif

post #26 of 45

I didn't intend to be rude or unhelpful. It had been a day or two since she posted, and didn't really have anyone posting. I honestly thought she would be able to find more mamas if she threw a wider net. I attempted to offer my support the best I could. I'm sorry it was viewed as rude, not my intention.

post #27 of 45
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Kriket: I didn't think of it as rude and knew what you were saying. When I posted this I was honestly wondering if anyone on here was having a planned c/s. I knew that I could ask a mainstream board but I wanted to know if there were women educated in natural births and attachment parenting in the same situation as me. I did not take your comment as rude at all because I assumed you were coming from a helpful place (which you told me you were). 

 

Thanks to everyone for the well wishes. This is the first time I have planned a c/s and I am feeling very confident about my OB. She is a mom of young children herself and understands what a birth plan means! I encourage anyone to trust their instincts and go with a new doctor (or midwife) if they feel something isn't right.

 

 

post #28 of 45

Hi Mamas!

 

I had my first two in hosp.... very 'traditional' birth with the first one and was do doped up on meds that they had to give me counter-drugs to wake me up so I could push.  Baby healthy and everything fine.  Second one was induced - more for the convenience of Dr. and that my mom was visiting and baby wasn't born on due date... so Dr. said pick you date and we'll induce.  Very intense and shorter labour, but not totally a bad experience.  Baby healthy and everything fine.  Third birth was planned homebirth with mw.  Started out immediately with intense back labout and laboured at home as long as possible; ended up not progressing and mw made decision to transport to hosp. for 2nd opinion.  Turns out baby was really stuck.  Choice was continue pushing... baby 'might' come out or 'might' get more stuck putting us both in critical situation, or opt for intervention and due cs.  BIG baby was born.  Healthy and fine.  Birth #4 was scheduled cs due to baby being transverse and no luck in turning before due date.  Turns out baby decided to start labour anyway a day before scheduled cs.  Ended up in ambulance to hosp. because of transverse position - must remain horizontal after water breaks due to risk of cord prolapse, etc.  So cs was 'emergency' because it was not the scheduled date.   With this pregnancy, most likely will need to have repeat cs due to - of all things - the incision on the uterus.  Usually it's horizontal, which it was for third birth, but because fourth birth was transverse, Dr. had to make vertical incision on uterus, which I'm told will mean higher risk of uterine rupture.  Need to discuss this with OBGYN at some point, but if need be, I'm okay with it.  Have given up on dreams of homebirth and realize health of baby and mom are the most important.  Maybe one day I'll be lucky enough to have a grandbaby born at home. 

post #29 of 45
Thread Starter 

Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy. I too would love a natural homebirth but I am okay that it isn't going to happen. Sounds like you did all you could to have the birth you wanted and I am glad to hear your baby was born healthy!

post #30 of 45

Matyja - Not sure if you have a classical or inverted T or if that's even the same. Might I recommend checking out the ICAN boards (www.ican-online.org) -they will be able to direct you to the real research and risks. Your OB is likely to tell you you have to schedule so it might pay to arm yourself with info/research to make an informed decisions - that way you at least know you had the power if informed choice even if a c/s is indicated.

post #31 of 45

I am not sure if I am or not. I had my daughter naturally, but ended up with 2 severe tears. (She was born three weeks early- water broke- and only weight 5.14).  It took me 8 months to be able to sit again and walk normal. It was pure hell trying to recover. Because of that, I am FREAKED out to do it again.  The worst part is I'm not really sure why it happened. I was with an OB that was very old school and mean, wouldn't really tell me much and got frustrated if I asked questions. It was not a good experience. When I had the baby, a different doctor delivered because mine was out of town. He told me about my injuries afterward, but that was about it. When I went back to see my OB, he would not tell me much at all. I've now switched (thank goodness) and love my new OB, but I haven't talked yet about delivery. 

post #32 of 45
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I am sorry you had a bad experience. You can request your medical records. I did that after my first c/s. I found out I had severe pre-eclampsia and my midwife never detected it or told me anything about it (even though looking back I had all the symptoms). When she brought me to the hospital for failure to progress I ended up with a c/s. I found out in my records that my midwife lied about how long I was in labor (it was 50 hours but my midwife told the OB it was only about 12 hours). It was very informative to get that paperwork! If you don't feel comfortable talking with that OB you can get the paperwork and discuss it with another OB or a midwife. Get as much information as possible and if you don't feel good about your OB talk to another one. I switched OBs this time after I realized that I didn't feel comfortable talking to the OB I was going to. I am sure someone on here could guide you to some good resources on tears and second births. 

 

Side note: I have to add that my homebirth gone wrong does not mean I am against homebirths or midwives. I still think midwives are wonderful just not the one I had with my first. My midwife practice that I had with my second baby was wonderful. I also like the OB I have this time around because she reminds me of a midwife. 

post #33 of 45

I was so happy to see this thread.  I haven't decided what we're going to do, but it's nice to know that there are attatchment ways of having a planned c-section.  Good luck to those mommas who are having c/s for happy and healthy mom & babes. 

post #34 of 45

So it occured to me today while looking through an astrology baby name book - just to get an idea.  And I realized that if I could carry to term and have the baby on it's due date, it would be a Leo.  But because it's going to be a scheduled c/s done two weeks earlier, it's going to be a Cancer sign.  I know it might not be a big deal to some people, but I was so hoping for another Leo as dd is a Leo and her b/d is in August. 

 

Does anyone else mind that their c/s dates might affect the astrology sign under which their babies are born? 

post #35 of 45
Thread Starter 

I asked my OB to do the c-section as close to my due date as possible. Not for astrology reasons but for insurance reasons. Maybe you could get the c/s moved to one week prior? For my either way (1 or 2 weeks early) I'll still have a Cancer. I do find it strange that I am basically picking my child's birthday. I loved that my other children picked their own birthday. DD picked winter solstice (she was due Christmas). 

post #36 of 45

 

 

 

DD was scheduled as well, but I went into labour a day earlier, so in that way she picked her own bd too.  DS was a day early... due Dec. 28th but arrived Dec. 27th.  I asked what the latest date I could have this c/s and was told absolutely no later than 38 weeks due to risk of uterine rupture being too great.  I have to be okay with that.  I knew going in it was a guaranteed c/s... I just wish they would let me keep baby by my side in recovery.  That period between recovery for mom and having baby in the nursery is tooooo long for me - even if DH is there with baby.  How far can one push policy though?

post #37 of 45
Thread Starter 

When I had DS I was not expecting a c/s and did not know I could insist on having him with me at all times. When I had DD I was very more vocal about what I wanted. She was an unplanned c/s too but I knew what I wanted from my birth with DS. My mom was with me and she made sure to be with DD and let the nurses know baby would be rooming with me. My mom held DD while I was recovering and felt too weak to hold her. Since you know you are having a c/s let the OB and the nurses know that DH or someone will hold your baby until you can. 

 

I was originally told that my c/s had to be at 38 weeks and I found a different OB. I like the one I have now much better!

post #38 of 45

I will definately request that baby be with me - or at least that DH can hold baby until I am able.  There is no wiggle room for c/s dates though, because of the incision I had last time.  Maybe baby will know this and start labour ahead of time anyway... 

post #39 of 45

Hi all! I haven't been on here for a long while. I unfortunately lost my first pregnancy in April 2010 and had an abdominal cerclage placed to prevent future losses.  From ow on, I'll have to have a c-section and won't be able to go into labor (so it will be scheduled right at 39 weeks).  Huge switch from wanting to go completely natural with the one that we lost to requiring a c-section, but we'll do whatever it takes to get a living baby home!

 

I've been doing a ton of research on the family-centered/family-friendly/humanized c-sections. I haven't brought it up to my OB yet but was wondering if anyone had advice on how to broach this subject.  I know that this type of c-section is still really pretty rare and it's something that's *really* important to me. I don't have the option of switching OBs at this point - there are only two high-risk groups in where I live and I'm on my second team already (the first team I saw with our loss and I'm not entirely confident in them).   I'm terrible at being forceful or being firm in what I want. I have a tendency to say what I want, be told something else, and then immediately back down. Help with a script please??

post #40 of 45

Maybe you could take someone with you to the next appointment - who could give you some back up and moral support with what you want to discuss?  Can DH go with you?  If you present a united front, they are more likely to consider your request, rather than just say oh well we'll see and not really follow through.  If you can go prepared with some research on your position, that would be even more helpful, or ask the Dr. have you heard about such and such an approach.  That sort of thing. 

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