Originally Posted by momto9kidlets
My biggest tip is to remember that this is her birth and to try hard not to compare your births or how you labored and birthed with how she is doing it. Also just really be present for her - meaning don't use it as social hour. I can't tell you how many births I have attended as a doula where the family and friends sat and talked the entire time while mom labored more or less on her own - it really felt like everyone was there for the "show" only. It is so sad when there is a room full of people, but the mother is still alone.
I totally agree with this statement. As a doula, I have seen this too. Just being present and available is a huge deal to a woman in labor.
Will there be a doula at this birth? What is your role supposed to be? I would talk to this friend and ask her that question.This will help you know what you should do and how you should act.
Understand general relaxation techniques such as cleansing breath, various positions, etc. Be ready to encourage and hand-hold, and look for little opportunities to help.
As a doula, you have to gauge everything and observe everything in order to know what the appropriate response would be to different situations. Remaining calm and keeping a light atmosphere as much as you can is important sometimes, but other times, a mom just needs you to go into that deep place she's in and just be there with her. Just be prepared to experience every emotion there with her, and be open to doing whatever needs to be done.
I hope the birth is wonderful! Hope this helped!