I am wondering if someone in this forum can give me a bit of advice. I am living on the US side of the Mexican border and I just recently began dating a Mexican/Native man. I am white, raised in a non traditional household. We have been dating for about 4 months.
This past weekend was the first time that I met his whole family. I have hung out with his father several times but this is the first time that I hung out with his sisters and brothers.
So, last night I asked him what his sisters said about me. He was very much trying to avoid the subject but I pulled it out of him.
Basically, on one of the night we all hung out together we had dinner at his sisters house. Well, when I was done eating, I got up and cleaned my plate and left it next to the kitchen sink. Well, he told me that they complained about me because I didn't help them clean up the whole kitchen after dinner was over. I had gone with him into the living room with the kids and was sitting with the rest of his family. At the time, I didn't think anything of it but basically, he said it was a cultural difference, in that they women clean the kitchen together and the men go off together. I knew this from previous discussion but at the time I was feeling nervous,etc and just didn't even think to offer help. I went into the kitchen at the end and asked his sister if she needed any help..felt bad that I hadn't offered before.
So, my question is if this is a cultural significant difference or rather a family difference. I was really hurt last night when he told me that they were talking s#*$# about me for not contributing.