January Queer Conceptions - Page 7
Gelly: I'm sorry about the pneumonia! I hope you're feeling better now. That's a hard choice about whether or not to do an unmedicated cycle. What are you leaning towards?
Old QOTD: Maybe I need to try massages. It seems like that helps/helped several of you...
Seraf: Thank you. Really. I look forward to being a mom someday! Someday, somehow...
Graceie: It sounds like you've found a good deal on insems. Not too long now!
Krista: If you have known donors ready to go, why not try? Is there an expense I don't know about? Or is it just the emotional challenges of trying? If I had free sperm, I think I would try no matter what. But breaks can be healthy too. Good luck deciding what makes the most sense for you!
Library: I'm so glad that your flight went well! I do have two magic opks left, and I'm looking forward to using them this cycle if I do get to insem. It's interesting that you had to see a psychologist but didn't have to do blood work. My RE doesn't require a psychologist visit, but does require all sorts of testing. More proof that REs are just making it up as they go along.
Starling: That's really funny that your clinic requires your DP to do testing. On the one hand, I appreciate that they are treating her as a full parent. On the other hand, would they refuse to let you insem if she did have a disease? It seems ridiculous. (Side note: I have to admit, I'm a little bit like your DP in regards to needles. Although all the bloodwork I've had to get for this ttc process has made me less squeamish, and I'm now less likely to faint when a needle gets near me. )
Indigo: So many exciting things coming up! Congratulations on booking your civil partnership date!
Lisedea: My RE said that I should wait to insem until I had a regular period, which I took to mean bleeding following ovulation (as opposed to anovulatory bleeding). But certainly people sometimes do get pregnant the first time they ovulate after a miscarriage. Good luck deciding what to do!
AFM: Thanks everyone for your encouragement (and for your annoyance at my RE). I agree--it may be possible to get the bloodwork and pap all done in time, but why couldn't they have told me a month ago? Anyway, I got the bloodwork today. I emailed my RE's nurse to see if the RE can just do a pap when I do my next insem. The RE is willing to do paps in general, so why not just do it all at once? Is this insane? It seems like an insane idea, but less insane then missing more work for a separate pap appointment. We'll see. I feel like I'm having a hard time right now with the ttc process. I just found out that another friend is pregnant. I'm happy for her, but it feels like everyone I know is pregnant, and it is a little bit hard to take. Sorry to be a downer. Hopefully this weekend will be reviving.
Krista- I am so sorry your RE is saying no to the injectables. It must be so frustrating to want to move forward and the dr’s telling you no. I think your next u/s will give you better information for this cycle.
Gelly- Nice to have you back! I’m sorry about your sickness and not hearing from the insurance company. TTC is hard enough without having all those other uncertain factors.
Seraf and Sara- I love the bus/camper conversion idea!
Gracie- That is so exciting, good luck on the upcoming insem! And your friend’s new fiancé does sound like a buffoon.
Library- Your comments made me realize how many gay librarians I know! Remarkable.
Lisedea- Do you feel ready to try again this cycle? I would say listen to your instincts. I did the master cleanse before TTC for 14 days and I loved it. More recently I just did a juice cleanse and the variety was great. Did you get bored?
Prettyisa and Starling- I second the positive mindset, its just as important or more than any other prep we do.
Starling- DP and I had to both take antibiotics before we started with our RE. Did you have to do that? We thought it was weird. It was to make sure we didn’t have some STD or something.
Indigo- That is all exciting news!
AFM- About one week till IVF, I am resting on the couch today. I am recuperating from WALKING AROUND all day yesterday without crutches! I am so happy to be walking. I’m typing this one-handed as I hold the baby shark pug in my arms. He’s sleeping/snoring and it’s so cute.
Number of kids- Right now I would be happy with one! At 38, it’s hard to plan for more but we’ll see.
Good morning ladies~ Only a few minutes before I have to run off to meetings. Book nerding out started last night with getting to see Armistead Maupin (who was hilarious and charming) and David Levithan (who was kind of an arrogant a-hole) and will be continuing today and tomorrow with the amazing likes of Joss Whedon and Neil Gaiman. Woohoo!! Went to La Jolla and looked at seals, who were preciously cute. One farted and it was maybe the stinkiest thing I've ever encountered. Whew!!
Max~ There are a lot of gay librarians, though I couldn't tell you why. The GLBT Roundtable is a big part of the ALA, and I see even more gay men and lesbians than actually attend the meetings. It'd be a fascinating study, I think. YAY for walking around!! You'll have your 2ww underway before you know it.
Escher~ I thought it was good of our RE to require me to see a psychologist. I only had to go for one session, just a general assessment, but it made me feel like he was thorough and serious. I had to do some basic bloodwork, but nothing extensive, and they asked about pap smears and mamograms, but I didn't have to produce records. I guess everyone's different.
Starling~ Got a brief glimpse of the vendor's room and all the new releases. Thought of you!!!
AFM~ I think I over did it yesterday, and maybe didn't get enough water. Woke up in the middle of the night with a racing heart and shakiness, convincing myself something awful was happening. I'm okay, but it shook me up. I'm drinking lots of water right now and being glad I have to sit in meetings all day. Too scary. Really missing my DP (though I just heard that her half marathon went very well).
Dear fellow TTCers and pregnant lessies I discovered something amazing today .......................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................
...................... bacon pickles
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Library: I'm sorry about your scary time last night.That doesn't sound like fun at all. I hope that you're feeling better today, and that you're able to sleep well tonight.
Max: Hooray for being able to walk around! That Belleruth Naperstak cd is the same pregnancy cd that I have. It is interesting to consider that I could listen to it when I'm not pregnant. It makes sense, but I hadn't thought of that! Your IVF cycle is so soon now! Do you have all the meds you need?
AFM: So I screwed up. I knew I was having EW yesterday (CD 8), and even a little bit the day before. Since in the 18 cycles I've tracked I've never ovulated before CD 12, I (stupidly) didn't bother doing an opk or using the monitor yesterday. This afternoon I had more EW, and I finally mentioned it to my wife, and she sent me to do an opk, and it came back darkly and clearly positive. I don't know if I have already ovulated or not. My doc is willing to do an IUI tomorrow morning if that seems to make sense. I'm annoyed at myself for not testing yesterday, but I'm trying to accept that if this cycle isn't meant to be, it just won't happen. We'll see!
Edited by escher - 1/8/11 at 2:30pm
there like pickles with hickory smoke flavor and garlic and stuff in them haven't tried yet I will report back , I have already informed my midwife that she could likely make a killing selling them in her office : )
escher those darn eggs ! fingers crossed for you
AFM impatiently waiting for AF so I can count the days till O . Ive seemed to have involentaly convinced myself the first cycle will work well at the same time trying to convince myself not to get my hopes up but then again it might ......you understand don't you ?
we have decided to try this cycle. i am hoping that our donor will be available. i think i will call on monday to see what our options are.
escher- i probably wouldn't have tested yet either--i don't start until day 10. my opks are always positive a couple of days before i ovulate. do you temp?
gracie--i think deepfried bacon pickles would be fantastic! are the pickles wrapped in bacon?
library--i am sorry you had such a rough time sleep last night! it seems that between your breathing and this racing heart thing you have had some pretty rough nights during your pregnancy. i hope you keep feeling better and keep drinking that water!
isa--thanks again for the chart info. i think i got it figured out!
max--i loved it too! i didn't get bored--probably because it was so short. i actually love the taste of the lemonade--i drink it hot. i think the master (if made hot) is great for winter time...while juicing is great during the summer (although, i have done it in the winter as well) it is also difficult to get a variety of fruits and vegetables on the island in the winter, one of the reasons i tried this cleanse. i am having a bit of trouble right now breaking it....so if you have any suggestions, i would really appreciate it! yesterday i ate an orange and two small salads (all vegetable...walnuts on one...maybe i shouldn't have done that....) and have felt pretty crappy all morning. i have never had this much trouble breaking my juice fasts before....but the master is definitely more intense.
Gracie- I understand all to well about getting your hopes up. I think the positive thinking is important during TTC and let’s face it whether you are hopeful or not, a negative test always hurts the same. I say “Get Hopeful!”
Lisedea- Make soup! I have a PDF all about the master cleanse from the author of it. He says start with veggie broth then move on to chunkier soup. I personally did soup for weeks after the cleanse because I was so excited about it. I lost two sizes, it was wonderful and perfect for me during that time. And I just love soups! Good luck!
AFM- Counting down the days till AF. I’ve been decorating the house and unpacking boxes I never got to when I was laid up. I feel so productive.
Hey wonderful ones~ I'm too sleepy right now to do personals, but I wanted to drop in and say hello. It's been a good, long day of meetings and book awards. Starling, your friend's book about the trans EMT is a Stonewall honor book and was the 'best of the year' vote for a few people on the committee! I'm feeling much better after last night's freak out. I guess I really do have to take it easier than I have been. As soon as I'm home from this conference, I'm going to do a bit more resting...
More tomorrow~ love to you all!
Graceie~ who is scott? did I miss something here?!
AFM: Just hanging out with a not so fun cold and AF to top that off for a wonderful weekend! Working on loosing some weight for pre-baby making fun! So far, one pound is gone! wuhu wuhu. Sara is working and I think the dog and I have had some really good bonding time! Fingers crossed for lots more snow!
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krista, did they test e2 to see how high it is? that is a better indication if those are cysts or not. i would push for that bloodwork before i made a decision on this cycle. bcp might not be a bad idea - give your ovaries a month off and then they are raring to go next cycle when you can do injectibles? just a thought.
afu, we are now done with poas for this cycle. dp is pretty sure she ovulated last night. now we patiently wait for af. :) and in other super exciting news, we have our civil partnership date booked! woooooohooo! :) that will happen when we are in scotland on vacation in april. yeah!
Sara~ I'm glad you're still feeling so positive, and I think anything we can do to make our bodies baby ready is time well spent. This hotel has a GIANT mirror on one wall and I was looking at my butt yesterday and wishin' and hopin' I could get back on my bike soon. I ate waaaay too much at Christmas!
No big news here. Another day of quiet meetings, then whale watching tomorrow. I'm kinda ready to go home and take it easy, but I'd better enjoy my last bit of 'freedom'. Hope everyone has a pleasant Sunday!!
AmandaHope: Thanks for your good wishes! I like the comparison to Amy's experience. Hopefully I will be similarly lucky!
Library: I hope you see some whales tomorrow! Are you going home on Tuesday?
Smilingsara: I'm sorry you have a cold. That's no fun! Good luck getting your body all ready to make a baby!
Max: You've inspired me. I think I'm going to listen to the Belleruth Naparstek cd (this one, for anyone else reading along) during this TWW. Hopefully it is just what my body needs. I'm SO excited that we're almost to your ivf cycle!
Question for people who get massages as part of TTC: Do you get massages all thought the cycle, or just before ovulation? Do you tell your massage therapist where you are in the cycle? Do you think there is any issue with pressure points that could be harmful during the TWW? Thanks!
Lisedea: It's exciting that you're trying this cycle! I hope that your donor is available! I do temp, and that definitely helped us make the decision to insem this morning.
AFM: I'm full of sperm! We went in for an IUI this morning, and it went very smoothly. I was pleased that even after thawing, there were 33 million motile sperm in the .5cc sample (so the equivalent of 66 million per cc). I think that may be the highest we've seen so far post-thaw. My temp was still down this morning, I still had EW, and my cervix was high and softer, so I'm hoping that our timing was good. We'll see!
Has a massage therapist ( specialized in pregnancy post partum infant and peds ) I would say its fine during the TWW could keep you relaxed and help with blood flow all that good stuff I had deep tissue and CST during my whole pregnancy with DS even 1 trimester .but no deep pelvic/ abdominal work during the TWW or well pregnant but some types of pelvic work can be great when you are waiting to O Ive been getting mayna sp ? womb massage
Escher: How exciting! Those numbers are excellent, and it sounds like your signs lined up perfectly! Wow. I have everything crossed for you, Amanda. I really hope this is your month and that you'll have a healthy, sticky little one in there very soon. From everything I've been told (including by my massage therapist, who is trained in prenatal massage), the "dangerous" pressure points (that could stimulate uterine contractions, which wouldn't be good for implantation) are all on the hands and feet. I'd think that relaxation-oriented massage that avoids the hands and feet would be perfect during the tww. You should treat yourself as lovingly as possible, I think. I hope you are having a lovely, quiet day.